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BAILEY'S ONGOING JOURNEY With a few bumps in the road.
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3 October 2014 - 11:49 pm
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Thank you Sally, I have folded all the towels we used and I just sat on the floor in the bathroom and buried my face and cried for about an hour... I keep thinking she's not gone.  It hurts and I know you know it hurts.

I received Butterfly Wildflower mix today with a poem attached it was sent overnight with this poem attached. So beautiful but it will make you cry.  Love you and my Tri-Pawd Family.  HUGS Tracy and Bailey

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Oh Tracy- my heart breaks for you!  As Sally said chunk it up in to small segments.  We know the pain in your head from crying, the HUGE lump in your throat that makes you feel that you cannot swallow, and the feeling of chest restriction that you don't know if you can take another breathe. Let it go...Take some deep breaths nice and slow. Hug Bella, she must be feeling so sad. Know in your heart that you were the perfect pawrent and have many happy memories. Bailey rallied because of the love that you shared and gave you all the extra happy time. She is happy and free and does not want to see you in suck pain. Cry, scream, stay connected but most of all get some sleep. How many weeks has it been since you have done that?  Oh yeah and take a long bath and cry. Go to bed and cuddle up to one of Baileys towel/blankets. We are here for you and feel your pain.

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4 October 2014 - 1:30 pm
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Laurie,

Thank you so much for your compassionate post it's much needed and I know everyone on here just loves everyone and wants the best and a cure for their pet.  I ended up finally folding towels that we used for Bailey and was putting them in a wash basket to put down buy the door we use to wipe muddy feet from a backyard run and I made it to the bathroom down there and just sat down and cried, I think the first towel was wet from just releasing my anger that was all bottled up and the tears I kept from just totally breaking, I knew it wouldn't help Bailey. Plus all my friends on here kept telling me to be strong for her... I repeated that in my head over and over again.

My chest is still heavy and I have a lump in my throat and as far as sleep, I drifted a little last night and then just stared out the atrium.  We have a open floor plan the rear of our home is all windows the atrium floor to ceiling so I can lay on the great room floor and see the trees and sky where the moon shines through.  It will be a while.  It feels like it's not real, I feel like I hear her cry from other rooms and it's my head playing games I know.

But I have you and all my loving tri-pawd family here holding me up.  She was my baby. She always sat on my lap and in her final day if I left her side to go into the kitchen she would tilt her head backward to see where I was going and then whine (like where are you going...)  I know it will take time.  I really wish I would have had her paw print even on a piece of paper.

Thanks again.

Love and tight hugs,

Tracy and Bailey (I know "A" it's there you just can't see it.)crying

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4 October 2014 - 6:30 pm
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Tracy, my heart is hurting for you. That feeling of cannot stop crying. The unreality of everything and then it hits again, it really is real. It just stinks! The wildflower mix with the poem was such a thoughtful gift. Maybe, in the Spring, you can plant a memory garden for Bailey and use those seeds. I made one for TY and sometimes, I like to just spend some quiet time there. He is not buried there, we had him cremated, but it is his spot, his garden. He has even left me signs at his garden.i like Laurie's advice, take small chunks of time. Eventually, you will find yourself going longer times without tears and one day you will think of something silly she did and you will actually smile and think of her at the same time. Just give yourself time. Cry, scream, throw things if you need to. Come here and post. It helps. Love from, Lori and TY

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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4 October 2014 - 10:25 pm
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Your heart Tracy...Bailey left paw prints on your heart.....a much better way to "save" her paw print. Her name is engraved on your soul...as is yours on hers.

What a sweet memory of her tilting that cute head of hers

We'll help you get through this. We understand. It's sooooo jard, so very, very hard.

But one thing you have proven over and over and over....you ARE STRONG! Bailey infused you with her strength and courage. When you think you can't get through the next minute, just remember, she's with you. She's tilting that head saying, "I'm here Mom. Lean in me."

Tracy, you and Bailey have a story to tell...you two will continue to inspire and give hope. I still marvel at those last couple of weeks of magic she had with you...a true miracle. An amazing gift!

Hugging you and sending you so much love.

Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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5 October 2014 - 5:14 pm
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Today is horrible, I sat outside in Bailey's favorite spot and cried and thought it would help but I felt I couldn't leave there for some reason, it's a beautiful crisp day and Bailey would have loved to lay on her red star blanket and sniff the air.

 

Everyone on here I am taking your advice, I am breaking it up in small pieces and it still seems unreal.

Everywhere I look is her face and everything about this journey.

 

I did meet Charley and Ellen today (I thought this was a good idea she lives in St. Louis and Charley is a tri-pawd since the age of 2.... my husband and I held it together until we got into the car.)  He had tears running down and goes maybe that was a bad idea so soon.  But she's taking Charley to the ocean for his 4 year ampuversary and I wanted her to have the Advocaps and the Artiesm (spelling probably not right.)  So I did pass on what was received.  I do have harnesses here that arrived the day of her receiving her wings and I will repost soon.  The one would have really helped her belly because her ruffgear because of her long body I feel like it hurt her there was really not enough support for her long body.  So anyone that needs harnesses... I will be passing them on.  I also have a pair of pink booties that are like raingear with a rubber sole but they did not fit Bailey and I didn't feel up to returning.  (Sally would you like these for Myrtle?)  They might be thigh high boots on her!

Sweet Lori and Ty I passed on your Advocaps to Charley, Bailey ate everyone of the K-9 Immunity Plus prior to the vets arrival.  She loved those things, didn't want a juicy steak or even her peanut butter roll but she ate the entire bag of K-9 Immunity Plus!  So thank you from Bailey and the bottom of my heart.

 

I love you guys.

HUGS needed.

Tracy and Bailey

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5 October 2014 - 7:57 pm
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Tracy, It will seem unreal for awhile. I think that is our minds way of coping with this. I could even fool myself for a bit if I left the house. If it comforts you to sit in Bailey's spot, then spend as much time as you need there. I spent a few minutes today by Ty's garden. With time, the pain will become bearable, it never quite leaves. I found that after a bit, I did not cry every day, then it became 2 that I did not cry. I still shed tears sometimes, but I can smile between them I can remember my silly, goofy boy. Just give yourself time. Come here as often as you need to. It hurts so much because you love her so much. She is still there, wagging her tail madly in your heart. Love from, Lori and TY

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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6 October 2014 - 6:17 pm
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Really having a bad day and so is my husband.  Bella is really not herself.

I wanted to put a picture here but I can't figure it out again. 

Love my family.

Tracy and Bailey

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6 October 2014 - 6:52 pm
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Tracy, do you have a blog? I will tell you how I do it although it is probably the wrong way. I add media to my blog library. I then open the picture and right click to copy, then I open my post. I actually open them both so I can switch back and forth. I click on the little tree thing and right click and hit paste, then I hit ok and viola! My picture is there. Then I can size it. Someone else can probably tell you an easier way. Another thing worth noting is, I have to use the tiny mice setting when posting pictures on my desktop and plain text when posting from my iPad. Don't know if my befuddled directions will help you or just confuse you more. I am sorry today was so hard. I wish there was some way I could lessen your pain. Love from, Lori and TY

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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6 October 2014 - 8:48 pm
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Keep staying here with us Tracy. Lean on us....feel our hugs....one minute at a time.

One step uou might thr is literally do one simple task that, at the most would only take three minutess...something that would require focus to do and would be a distraction.. I know almost everyting in the world would remind you of Bailey, but try and make it something unrelated. Do you and your husband have a lot of socks? Say whaaat? Yeah, maybe you could go through your sock drawer and make sure everyone has a match and discard the mis match...or use as a dust rag. OR...try setting up a blog like Lori said....that will require focus for sure...and probably through you over the edge so, no, maybe don't try that right now!!

This is such a miserable time. It seems unbearable, we get it. Just keep loving on Bella, she'll help you...and so will Bailey...and so will we.

Sending you love and almost knocking you down with hugs!!!

Sally and Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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7 October 2014 - 9:16 am
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Tracy I'm so sorry. I know, this is just not easy and it takes time, allow yourself to grieve, it's perfectly OK. Keeping busy with Slly's suggestion is a funny but great idea!
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2 November 2014 - 3:47 pm
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I don't think this gets any easier I miss Bailey so much. I came back to read about her journey and I just can't believe it.

I'm sorry for all the worrying I put everyone through.

I love all of you and appreciate all your support.  I want to give advice to others but all I can do is support and be here, I really don't know what's right.  I think at the beginning I was told it is a crap shoot... and it's sad but I believe it and it is so unfair.

 

Love and tight hugs,

Tracy and Bailey Girl

P.S. One of my biggest fears is CANCER with any dog now.  With Gracie it's like ok what to feed her do I stick with what the breeder had her on or do I do something different... how much is enough... I just want to do it right.

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2 November 2014 - 4:15 pm
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Oh you settled on Gracie that is perfect!  Yes it sucks!

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2 November 2014 - 5:42 pm
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Silly Tracy. DZid you learn to be silly from that Silly Girl Bailey? You DO NOT have to apologize for your posts or "making" us worry. You were on a crazy roller coaster and you did indeed, handle it!.

And yes, this journey is a c rap shoot andit is rotten and it stinks and there isntw anything fair about it.
As Bonnie says, there are "Milestones of Emptiness" But you are still here! Bailey is so proud of you...as are we all!!

I am sooooo glad Bailey sent you Gracie. She will put laughter into your day...color in your grey...and Bailey will be guiding you both every step of the way!

Hugs Tracy, tight, tight hugs!
Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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3 November 2014 - 7:29 am
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Gracie is a beautiful name for your new pup and it fits her perfectly!!!

When we lose our beloved Tripawd we question everything we did and wonder if we would have done something different would they still be with us.  It's just what our human emotions do but in reality we did the very best for our furbabies.  You will be an AWESOME mom for Gracie just as you were for sweet Bailey.

Hugs

Sahana and her Angel Leland

Leland

November 17, 2009 - June 30, 2014

May you finally be healthy and running free at the Rainbow Bridge. Until we meet again my sweet boy!

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