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17 June 2019 - 10:52 am
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Ohhhh. I am really sorry to read the news about Belle. I wish I had something to ease your broken heart. That old saying about how grief is something we cannot go around, we must go through it, is just so true. 

Just know that you did right by your girl. You allowed her to transition out of her failing body on a beautiful day surrounded by love and with dignity. Nobody can ask for more.

She is now an eternal spirit, healthy and strong and forever young and always watching over your little boy. She will repay you all a thousand times with little signs that she leaves to let you know she is alright. Pay close attention, she is around.

Many, many hugs and condolences are coming your way from our pack to yours. 

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My son saw the picture and said “That’s Bellie!!, then he stared ad the sky and started calling her 💗

He still doesn’t get it that she won’t be back in the house, at least, same way as before…

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How old is your son? I remember having to go through that with my kids and then my grandson, who was even tougher because he is autistic. I had to find a way to explain that in heaven they are not sick anymore, they have all 4 paws, and they do watch over us because I believe that with all of my heart. 

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He is almost 3.5. I also have a 6 year-old and she had her friend that lives next door to come and hug me to try to make me feel better. This morning i also got a message from her kindergarten teacher expressing her condolences -my daughter must have gone to talk to her first thing in the morning… She’s been trying to cheer us up ever since the horrible news and last night she was trying to explain her brother that Belle is flying in the sky with bubby Jessy and that she won’t not get back to her skin…and that she wants to get another dog that is just like Belle and name her Belle…

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Awwwww…..omg your daughter sounds so sweet.  You all need a big hug. I know this is hard,  trying to explain it to a child is the worst.  My grandson remembered Charlie,  Rosie,  Sylvester,  Gazoo, and Molly. In the middle of all of it was hardest to explain that no they weren’t sick anymore but they needed to stay in heaven now.  Eyes filling up here for your babies and mine. 

You’ll get through this, and I have a feeling Belle will send you all another precious furbaby when the time is right.

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He still doesn’t get it that she won’t be back in the house…
  

sp_hearticon2 There various children’s book recommendations in the Tripawds Amazon blog for helping young kids understand and cope with pet loss, and/or amputation for dogs and cats.

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Thank you Admin! 

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My son kept looking for her last night “but where is Bellie? Where is Bellie? I need to give her this”   

I had to repeat to him a few times that she is not around any more. icon_cry

He made something for his educator and gave it to me last night “so I could sleep”. This morning, when I give it back to him he said: “I want you to keep it… because Bellie is gone” 

I cried and cried and cannot stop crying and looking for her everywhere, it’s like a claustrophobic feeling where there is no way out. I think I will look for help for myself. And I question, why did we end her life? And I only think that we could have let her suffer through a few more nights to come to the same end and probably more painful for her. I don’t know, I don’t have the answers.

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Please don’t second guess yourself.  You did not end her life.  That terrible, awful, disease ended her life.  You just put a stop to her suffering.

Everything you did for her was out of love and she knows that.  

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The pain of her loss is overwhelming. I am so very sorry, I wish I could take it away for you. Questioning things is normal, I have done it, we all have done it at some point but YOU did not cause this. This piece of poopicon disease did. You loved your girl, your family loved her too! Please hang on to each other through this awful time of grief. 

You cannot get around grief, and you have been so busy putting every normal thing in life aside to take care of Belle, so now you have this huge gap to fill. What you are feeling is totally normal. 

I wish that if I were dying in pain that somebody would love me enough to end my suffering, don’t you? This is NOT your fault.

I can also tell you that even when my heart broke into a thousand pieces when I lost my Rosie, I would not change having her in my life. When you love hard, you grieve hard.. but lucky are the ones to be able to experience true love sp_hearticon2

My girl will be gone 7 years this Monday and I still cry over her. I smile too at her silly antics and the things she did to love me and make me laugh. You will get there in time.

I have more to share, an idea of sorts, but at work so it will have to wait a bit… I will be back.

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You did not end her life.  That terrible, awful, disease ended her life.  You just put a stop to her suffering.

That is SO beautifully said. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

And I couldn’t agree more. We are tasked with the huge responsibility of making sure our animals do not suffer when their time comes, and it’s not easy to cope with it when it happens.

I think that talking to a pet loss support group can be tremendously helpful, so yes please do locate one near you. If you want me to help you find one I can do that, just private message me your location. Also, these pet loss books may help you and your son.

If you would like to celebrates Belle’s life with a post in our Coping with Loss Forum Topic, it can be tremendously helpful and we would enjoy learning about all the great times you shared with her.

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For some ‘unknown’ reasons, a facebook post from an acquaintance draw my attention so I read it. 

I’ve just found same story in English and wanted to share here…

Kafka and the Doll: The Pervasiveness of Loss

Franz Kafka, the story goes, encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking daily. She was crying. She had lost her doll and was desolate.
Kafka offered to help her look for the doll and arranged to meet her the next day at the same spot. Unable to find the doll he composed a letter from the doll and read it to her when they met.
“Please do not mourn me, I have gone on a trip to see the world. I will write you of my adventures.” This was the beginning of many letters. When he and the little girl met he read her from these carefully composed letters the imagined adventures of the beloved doll. The little girl was comforted.
When the meetings came to an end Kafka presented her with a doll. She obviously looked different from the original doll. An attached letter explained: “my travels have changed me… “
Many years later, the now grown girl found a letter stuffed into an unnoticed crevice in the cherished replacement doll. In summary it said: “every thing that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.”
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The pain of her loss is overwhelming. I am so very sorry, I wish I could take it away for you. Questioning things is normal, I have done it, we all have done it at some point but YOU did not cause this. This piece of poopicon disease did. You loved your girl, your family loved her too! Please hang on to each other through this awful time of grief. 

You cannot get around grief, and you have been so busy putting every normal thing in life aside to take care of Belle, so now you have this huge gap to fill. What you are feeling is totally normal. 

I wish that if I were dying in pain that somebody would love me enough to end my suffering, don’t you? This is NOT your fault.

I can also tell you that even when my heart broke into a thousand pieces when I lost my Rosie, I would not change having her in my life. When you love hard, you grieve hard.. but lucky are the ones to be able to experience true love sp_hearticon2

My girl will be gone 7 years this Monday and I still cry over her. I smile too at her silly antics and the things she did to love me and make me laugh. You will get there in time.

I have more to share, an idea of sorts, but at work so it will have to wait a bit… I will be back.

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yes, we thank Rosie and Belle for such pure deep true love. Forever and ever inside us and praying that one day they will be back with us. 

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That was a pretty deep story, and true if you think about it. I don’t know what the set up of your home is, or if you are having Belle’s ashes returned to you, but I thought if you had a little place to put some of her things, a picture, a place for the kids to put their keepsake drawings for her, that it might be some comfort for all of you. Just a little place for Angel Belle. Might sound silly… was just a thought. 

Some people go frantically through the house and pick everything up and get rid of it. Some don’t touch things for a long time. Me? I a kinda in between person. I saved Rosie’s toys forever and finally gave them to Mitchell and Bo. I still have her collar and tags though. I had her cremated privately and her ashes are in a beautiful box that is put away. I use the scoop that she chewed the sides of every day for my furbabies now. 

Was just trying to think of something that you and the kids could share for comfort. I saw a ton of kids books on Amazon, and if you look up pet loss and children there is a bunch of stuff that comes up. I don’t know if any of that will be helpful for you. 

Keeping you in my thoughts,

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