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Grief with all the losses
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Orrtanna Pa.
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30 April 2014 - 5:15 am
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Sending love today! it hits you by surprise! the emotion sometimes. I am with you on the video. He was a beautiful special boy! Love: Lori and Ty Guy

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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30 April 2014 - 8:51 am
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Take your time on the video Elizabeth, when your heart is ready the magic will happen.

You know why one year ago you didn't know he wouldn't be here? Because you were living in the now, you were appreciating each and every day and not thinking about one year from now, which is out of our control. You were in the present moment, which is all our dogs ever want for us.

{{{hugs}}}}

Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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30 April 2014 - 9:15 am
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Elizabeth, for all you have done for all of us here regarding slide shows and such, I wish I had the know-how to do a video for you.......just know if I had it within me in the way of computer smarts, I would make the best video I possibly could for you and your handsome blue-eyed boy, Jake.

Much Love,
Bonnie & Angel Polly





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30 April 2014 - 9:27 am
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Elizabeth,

The stuff you have done is awesome around here.  Everyone is right there will be a right time to do your tribute for your baby.  You will know when that is.  Emotions are a funny thing.  Thinking of you. 

 

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Michelle & Angel Sassy

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Sassy is a proud member of the Winter Warriors. Live long, & strong Winter Warriors.
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07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013

05/04/2006 -  Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19  fought cancer for 4 months.

"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."

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30 April 2014 - 10:28 am
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Elizabeth,

Grieving is a process...sometimes a lifelong process. Not that every day is sad along the journey, but sometimes the memories make you cry, and sometimes they make you smile and laugh. There's no set time to do anything. I haven't done a video tribute to Willow, but recently, on the one year anniversary of her death, I posted some pictures and a written tribute to her. It took me that long to be able to do it. I cried the entire time I wrote the tribute, but I smiled and laughed though my tears also. People think that crying means you haven't healed, but I think the tears themselves are healing sometimes.

You are so kind, loving, and supportive of everyone here, please be kind and gentle with yourself also. We're all here for you! When you're ready, that video will get made. And remember, tears aren't always bad!

With love,
Carol





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2 May 2014 - 10:42 am
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Found this quote today

 

“Grief, as I read somewhere once, is a lazy Susan. One day it is heavy and underwater, and the next day it spins and stops at loud and rageful, and the next day at wounded keening, and the next day numbness, silence.”
― Anne Lamott

 

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michelle & Angel Sassy

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Sassy is a proud member of the Winter Warriors. Live long, & strong Winter Warriors.
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07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013

05/04/2006 -  Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19  fought cancer for 4 months.

"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."

Virginia







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2 May 2014 - 12:02 pm
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Michelle, thanks again for starting this topic and for keeping it going. I'm not on mich anymore and I've missed so manyof the posts on here. I always love seeng Jersey Girl's avatar and Pollu's...jist cute!

CHRISTINE...you nailed it like always! ditto the BRAVO! Love that pic of yo and Franklin...so much love!

Shelby and Alison...always ONE soul, always will be. That picture shows the love...it's beyond the exterior bodies...it's pure heart and soul love.

Elizabeth! So glad yoj were able to do Jake's celebration of a life well lived tribute!!! He is sooo proud! And I love his picture on tne previous page here...he's so beautiful.

Dieter, let us be here foryou, okay? As you can tell, we are all family and we are all pulling foryou and Deiter!!

Gunnilla, my friend, your posts have meant the world to me...to all of us. You, also, like everyo e on this page, know the heart break, but you also remind us the beauty of bri ging wonderful memories back nto our hearts.

Lori, your bond with Ty will forever be legendary here. Your commitment to doing everything possible, to give him the best life surrounded by love every second, and to buy shoes knowing you will never see many of them again...very special love indeed!!!

Joan and Lilly, we are all cheering for you!! Keep n keeping on Lily! You are our inspiration and we thankmyou!

Jerry.....our shining jewel...we thank you.....just thank you.

Love to all

Sally and Happy Hannah

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!





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6 May 2014 - 9:37 am
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This is so me

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Michelle & Angle Sassy

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Sassy is a proud member of the Winter Warriors. Live long, & strong Winter Warriors.
sassysugarbear.tripawds.com
07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013

05/04/2006 -  Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19  fought cancer for 4 months.

"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."

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6 May 2014 - 12:23 pm
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I love this one. Thanks!

Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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6 May 2014 - 1:01 pm
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I have to be honest...I can't make it through many of these posts. I just know that I have good days, ad bad days. Early morning is THE WORST. I always quietly got up at about 4:30, to check on my Grady, then brewed coffee, and got his breakfast underway. Seeing leftovers in my fridge kills me every time. Rice with Tumeric? Extra plain chicken? Cottage cheese? That's not for us...that's Grady's food. I don't need 18 eggs...Grady eats those. New puppy keeps me busy, and distracted, but not at those times. It's creepy, though...Jack has found toys that Grady stashed long ago, and he won't go near the cookie jar without permission. I'm not a terribly spiritual person, but we call Jack "karma dog" for a reason. He just does things that Grady would ask him to do.

 

I just can't believe how many warriors all left us at once. I've never grieved a person like this, let alone a dog!

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6 May 2014 - 7:19 pm
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stellblu said
I have to be honest...I can't make it through many of these posts.

That's OK, we totally get it. Grief is such a personal thing, it's different, but yet the same for everyone in that we all have those ups and downs and oftentimes the rest of the world doesn't get it.

When even eggs remind you of your beloved angel (as venison meat and braunschwager does for us), you know that's some very special life you had together :) Grady is most certainly watching out for Jack, what a lucky pup.

{{{{hugs}}}}}

Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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6 May 2014 - 9:12 pm
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stellblu said
Seeing leftovers in my fridge kills me every time. Rice with Tumeric? Extra plain chicken? Cottage cheese? That's not for us...that's Grady's food. I don't need 18 eggs...Grady eats those. New puppy keeps me busy, and distracted, but not at those times. 

I get it ... I can't eat canned (pure) pumpkin nor can I throw out the can in my fridge that has been there over a month now and I am sure is growing things. And making my lunch is still hard on me since I would toss Shelbs some extra deli meat, etc... It's weird - the little seemingly insignificant things seem to set me off worse than seeing photos of shelby .. It's a process! Hugs!!!

Shelby Lynne; Jack Russell/Shiba Inu mix. Proud member of the April Angels of 2014.

October 15, 2000 to April 8, 2014

Our story: Broke rear leg in June 2013 - non-conclusive results for cancer so leg was plated and pinned. Enlarged spleen in September 2013 and had it removed and was diagnosed with Hemangiosarcoma and started chemotherapy. Became a Tripawd January 8th, 2014 and definitive Hemangiosarcoma diagnosis. Three major surgeries in 7 months and Shelby took them all like a champ only to lose her battle to cancer in her brain. We had 8 amazing extra months together and no regrets. #shelbystrong #loveofmylife

Orrtanna Pa.
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10 May 2014 - 9:16 am
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I had to share this story form last night. I have my "TY SHRINE" in my home office. I have shelves above my desk and since he spent a lot of time in here with me, I just felt it was a good place. It also kept me from having to explain his "box" to visitors. I know, I am a coward. So, I have his remains, a bunch of pictures and a magnet that I bought years ago because it looked just like him. I also had a picture of him as my home screen. I thought that my husband had forgotten about him and moved on. He never talked about him. He was in my office last night and said," I don't like the pictures of the "sick Ty". I showed him that there were no "sick pictures." The one he thought was a sick pic was when Ty was young and gangly. Then he said," Well, I don't like seeing any of the pictures, especially on the computer." I took the one off of the computer out of respect, but I am leaving the others up. Then he said, "they help you. You want to keep his memory alive. I just want to get to the point of TY who?" It was at that moment that I realized that everyone grieves in a different way. I do not want to EVER get to the point of TY who? It is his way of coping. He had also emotionally checked out during Ty's illness. That was also a way of coping. Does not mean that he did not care or does not miss our dog. He just processes things differently. I guess I just wanted to share this in case there is anyone else out there in the same circumstance. You have a family member that just does not seem all that upset from your loss. One thing that I do have to give him credit for, is the fact that he has not brought up the amount of money that we spent trying to save Ty. He used to joke with me like no birthday gift for you, you got a dog or a vet visit etc.  I was ok with that.  I would just say that my Ty Guy was worth it. But since we lost TY, the money subject has not been raised. I have to agree with him on one fact, the pictures do bring me comfort. I am going to go now, just wanted to write a bit I think. That helps me also. Thanks for listening! Love from, Lori and TY

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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10 May 2014 - 9:50 am
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Wow Lori! That is an excellent "example" of people "grieving differently". Not sure that "shutting down" ne's emotions like that is necessarily a good thing. Hey, if it works for him, then I guess it IS a good thing...for him. Clearly he IS hurting and just cannot stand "feeling" the hurt. Yeah, we get that.

I wonder if the reverse is true when that's the way so eone grieves? Does that person "hold back" on...for example...loving a dog to the fullest so they won't feel the loss as much, nor,of course, the joy of their love as much? Just curious if you saw thst pattern. I know you said he pretty much shut
down whe Ty got sick and left all his caregiving to you. Again, EVERYONE is different! No right or wrong.

Just know WE UNDERSTAND THE DEPTHOF YOUR GRIEF and we understand it's not something you can just shut down. WE ARE ALWAYS HERE FORNYOU and we LOVE hearing stories about TY and we LOVE seeing his pictures!!! We share in your loss and we share in your joy and love for TY...and his joy and love for you!!

Ty deserves the finest "memory box" in the land and I knowyou'll keep adding to it! Okay, I have to "cross the line" for just one second..........put Ty's gangly picture back up on your computer screen!!! That "office" belongs to you and Ty!!! For all of us here......there will NEVER be a "Ty who" moment!! EVER!!! TY WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN HERE!! The picture of Ty on your screen sounds adorable and I know it feels good for you to see it evsryday....and (so they say), everyday it will soon bring you more smiles.

MUCH LOVE TO YOU LORI! We all love you and Ty and ALWAYS want to hear about him!

Sally and Happy Hannah

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

Orrtanna Pa.
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Sally, no, he never held back his affection for Ty. He shed tears the day we let him go. I don't want him to sound like a bad person as he is not. I watched the same pattern when he lost his brother 3 years ago. Kind of just shut off the emotion for awhile. He can talk about him now though. As far as the caregiving falling to me, I pretty much made the decision to treat his cancer. My husband bowed out about MRSA time. I think he saw Ty getting sicker and sicker and he thought it would be easier if he distanced himself. We are just different is all. I think men and women also show emotion differently. Don't worry there will be more pictures and stories of Ty coming. Love from, Lori and Ty

TY GUY, Best Black Lab ever! Diagnosed  and had amp in January, 2014. Kicked MRSA's butt. Earned his angel wings on April 16, 2014. Run Free my boy and don't forget a shoe. Ty is a proud member of the " April Angels". Ty sent us Daryl, a Tripawd rescue in Sept. of 2016. Daryl is 5 +or -. We are also Pawrents to Chandler, a Border Collie mix who is 15 and 1/2, Lucy, a Corgi who is 7, 2 minis, 2 horses, and a feisty cat named Zoe. Zoe had a non skeletal Osteosarcoma removed in July 2015. No Chemo, she was at least 16. She is going strong although she is now completely blind. She is now close to 20 and her hobbies are eating and sleeping in front of her personal heater. 

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