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28 September 2017 - 8:21 pm
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Karen , 

they are now 10 & 7. They are helping us to see it through their eyes for sure ! 

David, im really trying to stay busy.  I didn’t realize how being a stay at home mom , starting in May , was such a blessing and a curse.  It helps to look back, even though it is easy to second guess his cancer and the what if’s. 

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The thought you have put into Toddy’s Memorial is just lovely!   It’s all about Toddyand he will absolutely lofe it!

And the Bunny statue is PERFECT!!!  

As time goes on, I think you’ll really find comfort being in Toddy’s garden, along with your other Cockers. Very sweet.

And yes,seeing things from the eyes of Toddy’s boys is so sweet.  And it’s how Toddy really is…free and happy, but still with you.

Will the glass heart be something you will place in the garden, or is it more along the lines of a lovely indoor piece?

And that picture…OMD!!!!  SOOOOO CUTE!!!!   BEST HAPPY MEMORY IN THE WORLD!!! 🙂   Thanks for sharing that cery special moment Toddy and his boy shared!   Toddy must have thoroughly enjoyed playing with his boys…..even if it meant getting gel all’over him!! 🙂

Lpts of hugs

Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle and Frankie too!

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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29 September 2017 - 10:29 am
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Hey Heather I’ve just now had a chance to catch up. What a sweet photo! I love your idea about the memorial garden. Digging in the dirt with bare hands is therapeutic for me, I hope it is for you. I’m sure the boys will enjoy the process too. Having a special place like that where you can go and remember Toddy will help everyone process in their own way. Maybe the bunnies will come by to say hello too! 

I’m sorry about the bad experience at your vet clinic. Yes, Rocky deserved better, and he got it a thousand times over with all the love and good times you and the family gave him. Those memories are far more powerful and as long as you keep remembering them eventually that bad experience will be more of a learning experience than a heartbreak. In time, it’ll happen.

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29 September 2017 - 3:58 pm
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They are helping us to see it through their eyes for sure !

In addition to learning how to Be More Dog we need to remember how to Be More Kid!

Karen

Tri-pug Maggie survived a 4.5 year mast cell cancer battle only to be lost to oral melanoma.

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10 October 2017 - 7:25 pm
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It’s hard to believe that today marks 1 month since we said goodbye to our sweet Toddy. Looking at pictures still hurts and in part it is because I realize how quickly his cancer progressed.  My heart still aches and what I wouldn’t give for more time with our sweet boy.  I still feel him when we are out in the backyard and there are birds or squirrels.  So many things around the house remind me of him throughout the day…..they either cause a sob or a smile.    It does seem that the rest of the family has adjusted for the most part and I am reminded daily of how much of a caretaker I was for him.  I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

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saying goodbye 1 month ago…Love you forever & always my sweet boy.heartheart

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10 October 2017 - 9:06 pm
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What an incredible photo. You can feel the love. One hand, one paw. It sums up the journey so well. 

David and Rocky (and Baxter now too!)

Rocky had his right front leg amputated on Valentine's Day 2017 after being diagnosed with osteosarcoma.

He joined the September Saints on September 3, 2017.

He is the toughest, bravest, sweetest and best friend I'll ever know. 

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10 October 2017 - 9:31 pm
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Yes, a lovely poignant photo that silently speaks volumes.heart

When you’re the caregiver and the pattern is broken it leaves an extra layer of sadness to the void.

I’m glad you can feel that cute Toddy’s presence.  And you’re exactly right, it can either bring a smile or a sob.  Soon though, you will be able to add that it brings a peace ocer you, kind of a warm fuzzy peace.

And Toddy would do it all overr again in a heartbeat too!  

BTW….one month Angelversaries are always celebrated at the Bridge with frisbees, tennis balls, cake and icer cream…And lots and lots of tummy rubs  from their own assigned Angel.

Tha js for sharing that sweet phto with us.  We’d loce to see more!

Lots of love to you Heather

Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle and Frankie too!

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14 October 2017 - 6:54 am
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Oh, Heather, I am just catching up on the forums and am so sad to hear about Toddy. I remember feeling so hopeful for both of you when he had his surgery, and am crying for your loss (at work in the break room…). I know that the time you had together will be cherished memories. I’m so sorry that you didn’t have more time together. He was a beautiful, sweet boy, and I’m grateful to have met him through your posts.

With love and hugs, Brittnie and Loki

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18 October 2017 - 9:35 am
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(((( hugs)))) the first month is so hard!!! Lots of “firsts” yet to come I am sure. Especially when you were the primary caregiver (as I was for Shelby). It is like you are without purpose and kind of wandering … know that he is indeed with you and when you feel his presence, he is visiting to check-in. 

I love that photo of your hand and his paw …. that love and connection will never be lost!

Hugs and love!

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28 October 2017 - 4:19 pm
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Thank you so much for the continued support.  It has been a very busy couple of weeks and I haven’t had much time to visit the site.  Today has just hit again, really hard, that Toddy is gone. It still hurts that he is gone.   We did go out to the memorial garden today and planted tulip bulbs that my mom had given us.  We planted them in the spot where the bunnies had a nest.  The boys LOVED planting the bulbs and I’m glad we are able to have another precious memory in honor of Toddy.  It seems just like yesterday that he left us……

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I came across this again today.  This is right before his amputation surgery in July. How I miss this sweet boy!

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Heather & September Saint Toddy

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28 October 2017 - 8:48 pm
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And you planted  the Tulips over the bunny nest??? TODDY MUST BE WAGGING HIS BUTT OFF OVER THAT!! 🙂 🙂   Bunnies, you better not come back and try and eat the bulbs. He’s watching you!

BTW these aren’t just any Tulips.  No sirreee.  Seeing these bloom this Spring….seeing TODDY’S TULIPS bloom will remind you of his presence.  In nature nothing ever dies, it just changes form.  TODDY’S TULIPS will remind you of that.

I wish I could tell you the waves of grief go away.  They do become less and less and not as severe, , but everyone here will tell you they never go away completely. 

Revisiting pictures of Toddy  certainly he@ps to fpcus on what a happy boy he was.  And soooooo adorable and handsome!  His fur  is glistening in the Sun!  Just another way to remind us of all  the sparkle within Toddy!  His brilliant bright light can never be dimmed!.

Tha ks so much for checking in and for sharing that sweet picture of yiur sweet Toddy.  Can’t wait to see photos when TODDY’S TULIPS first start ro emerge.  In Virginia I actually start seeing the first greenery burst forth even through the snow in February.  Tell the voys ro be on the look-out.

Lots of love a d hugs

Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle and Frankie too!

Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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29 October 2017 - 12:36 pm
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Heather, it’s good to hear from you. Never feel guilty about not being here OK? We totally get it. The grief process is different for everyone and some days it’s harder than others. Little things can really set you on that watery-eyed spiral. For me it was a certain song, for others, it’s a TV commercial or a photo. But by taking time to do special things to honor Toddy’s life, like planting the bulbs, you are going through the process and coming to terms with everything. And you helped the boys too, that’s wonderful. How are they taking it?

That is a beautiful photo of Toddy! Got any more you’d like to share? Photos that will make you smile? We’d love to see ’em!

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29 October 2017 - 8:25 pm
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Well what have we here??   I do believe Toddy is growing more than just Tulips in his little garden 🙂 🙂 🙂

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5 November 2017 - 12:21 am
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The boys are doing okay. they talk about him  just about everyday.  We have his picture with his ashes, stuffed bunny and paw print …. I come in to the room on occasion to find them just sitting and looking at his picture. Breaks and melts my heart at the same time. I know they loved him just as deep as we did and are trying to process not having him with us. 

Sally…I LOVE THAT PICTURE!  Made me cry happy tears. How Toddy loved bunnies and tulips! We are searching for just the right bunny statue to put in his garden.

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16 January 2018 - 5:04 pm
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Hard to believe it has been almost 4 months since Toddy went to Rainbow bridge…. We miss him daily but it is sweet how many memories the kiddos have .  We have had 2 good snow days and they have remarked both times how much Toddy would have loved to have played in the snow.  I still feel him here everyday.  I still can’t seem to take down his crate and Preston put his stuffed doggie in his crate to make sure we never forget him…heart

Our other dog Smoochie loves to lay in Toddy’s bed heart

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Time does lessen the pain but the memories live on forever!!

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Remembering our boy at Christmas.

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