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I do believe Mr Charlie took charge of making that printer work!  Very special the way You are framing his licture and writing on the back.  A lovely family treasured “heirloom”

And speaking of TREASURED…looooove the photos!!  And yes, the one with his ha dsome mug nestled in ykur ha d for chin scratches…priceless!

And he has a very happy smile lazing around in the grass…..truly a happy boy who loved his life with youheart

Looking for more of anything and everything CHARLIE!

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Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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Today I went for a walk, just where Charlie and I would always go, and I found a nice paw print in the mud.  I know it was his as I remember thinking what a nice imprint it was when he made it.  That was his last walk.  Nice and deep.  I had some sculptamold left from a school project of my sons years ago so I hastily made a cast of it.  Its decent but a little rough.  I would like to use it to do the reverse imprint, so it looks like it did in the dirt.  Does anyone have a suggestion as to how to do it?  I do have an imprint that the vet had done but its not the same.  I don’t want to ruin what I have.  I’m thinking of using saran wrap around it and pressing it into plaster.  Any thoughts?

I’m having a real issue with putting his things away.  Every day something else goes.  His backup canned food treats shampoo and stuff, went to my older son, suppliments and meds to the vet to give to someone who could use those things.  Frozen raw food to a good friend.  Washed his blanket.  Returned an unused bottle of fish oil to the Vet Supply.  His  harness, leash and my headlamp for night walks still hang on the wall.  His food and water bowls still in the kitchen.  Am I being to weird?  Of course everytime I see his stuff I get depressed, but every time something goes it feels like a little more of him goes also. I know there is no answer here, its just something I have to work out.  Just needed to get it out.  

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Yet again a other sifn4 from Charlie….HIS pawprint!.  It’s not exactly a “coincidence”  that you just “happened” to find Charlie’s pawprint.  Actually pretty UNLIKELY you would be in the exzct same spot where the twoof you shared walks!  .Pure magic from Charlie! 🙂

I don’t jave any insight on the mold, but I bet someone will chime in shortly to help fifure out a way.  Great idea! 🙂

As far as “rehoming some of Charlie’s things, take your time.  You can just put some things in a spot where they will be safe.  I k ow one member discarded meds,etc,  ut kept their personal things (vbowls etc) and made an celebration of life corner.  Some have made little “Memorial Garde s” and pla ted flowers in the water vow, etc. (making drain holes in the vottom)

Guess I’m trying to say, just do what feels right for you…when it feels right….no rush.  Save any fur you find and put it in a baggie.  Shhhh…..I do don’t share this with mist everyone….shhh…. it was months before I wiped down some of Happy Hannah’s slobber off the wall!

.Maybe when you go on your walk again, you could dig up a little shrub or bavy tree thst is growing along the area.  Bring it home to your “”garden”.

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Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!

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Hmm, I’m not a clay person but your saran wrap idea sounds like it could work. 

Don’t feel like you have to rush putting his things away. You may never feel like you want to get rid of that leash and your headlamp, and why should you? Maybe hang a photo of Charlie next to it, to remind you of those happy walks you took together. Or make a little shadow box of things that remind you of him. There’s no rush to hand off anything, do what feels right for your heart.

I’m so sorry for your loss of your sweet boy. You’ve suffered a great loss, be good to yourself and take your time processing your grief. We totally get it.

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When Tri-pug Maggie crossed I immediately got rid of the things that reminded me of how hard things had been- the meds, the extra food etc.  I did have another pug at home so that makes some things different. 

I left her food bowl in it’s place until I adopted my next pug 5 weeks later.  I left her leash and collar with her name plate hanging in the closet until I sold the house and moved, that would have been 5 years later.  As a matter of fact Maggie’s leash and collar, as well as her little sis’s leash and collar, Tani passed in early 2015, are hanging in my craft room.  Maggie had a blanket that she slept on nearly every night of her life- that stayed on my bed for a year and now lives in the nightstand by my bed. These things now all have good memories for me so I like to have them around.

Take your time and do what feels right. I saw you posted booties in the Angel Exchange- good for you!  I did donate a couple of harnesses and some supplements after Maggie passed.  It made me feel good that a little piece of Maggie went to those Tripawds.

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Well, I’ll try to keep this short but it may get long.  I’m 65 yrs old, just got a smart phone several years ago because my employers, I’m a carpenter, wanted me to send pics of problems to them so they could be resolved promptly.  I had a flip phone b4 then.  Anyway I liked the pic aspect so when Charlie got sick I started taking lots of pics of him as well as others.  I loaded them all on my laptop so I could print them out.  Anyway the other day I was trying to load one of his pics as a desktop on my computer but could not seem to figure that out so I selected screensaver and selected 1 pic and closed the computer.  So today, just a short time ago,  I was looking on the web for some ideas for a stone garden memorial, thinking I could use the  casting of his paw print I mentioned earlier to imprint some cement and trying to get some ideas as to how I could etch concrete with some memorial.  I got sidetracked with a phone call, set the computer down and when I came back there was a pic of Charlie, not the one I tried to load.  It seems that all the pics I had loaded on my computer are now screensavers, including all of Charlie’s.  I watched all those beautiful pics scroll by, some with him and the grandkids, my son Carl’s graduation ceremony from boot camp, him with Charlie, after surgery pics and his recovery.   It was wonderful.  Charlie’s work? 

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charlie1 said
…some ideas for a stone garden memorial, thinking I could use the  casting of his paw print I mentioned earlier to imprint some cement…

Check the Tripawds Gifts blog for some garden stone memorial ideas, or if you have a casting try theses kits:

Preserve Paw Prints in Stone

Charlie continues to work his magic indeed… way-cool

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Charlie is definitely working his magic from the Bridge!!   The “unexplained” is easily explained when the energy of Charlie makes himself known!!   I love how he  akes his presence known to you in such unique ways.   And to do this with the pictures that mean so much ro you…….yeah….pure magic 🙂

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This will be my last post for Goodbye, it’s time I move on to maybe a blog if I can figure that out.  But today, maybe another “nudge” from Charlie.  I was feeling sad as its Tuesday, exactly 1 week since he left my life.  So I left work early and picked up some plaster from the hobby store with the intent of working on that paw imprint.  When I got home decided to retrace the last walk I took with him.  I found 1 more imprint of his that I missed before so I used the plaster to make another casting.  It’s better than the first.  About an hour ago it started snowing here, real hard and its still going strong.  Had I not done all of that, leaving early, picking up the plaster and deciding on that walk that print would now be gone.  So now I have 2.  

You guys, and gals are great, thanks for all the support.  Charlie and I both thank you.

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It still amazes me that you are able ro find Charlie’s pawprints a week laterway-cool  This whole day was definitely arranged by Charlie!    Eing at the Bridge, he can make soooo many things happen…..like getting you off work early and delaying the snow until you found his print.  A very special connection indeed!

I was never computer savvy enough to do a blog.  One of our members, Bonnie (Angel Polly’s Mom), suggested a thread called TRIPAWD ALUMNI.   Check it out.  It’s where a lot of us gather to post stories, versaries, memories, etc.  It’s also a place a lot of us go when our Spiritual Beings at the Bridge send us other furbabies for us to show them what what love and joy feel like ….just like we did for them!   We look forward to continuing to celebrate Charlie’s life and his “signs” there, or a blog, or both, or wherever!! 🙂   

Shhh….a little secreit.  I couldn’t quite get used to calling my Happy Hannah “Angel” when she first transitioned.  It’s a lovely “honor” to be called an “Angel”….but, I guess I was in a bit of “denial” and didn’t want to make it “final” that she had gone to the Bridge and was now an Angel.   Anway, when that thread was started,  that’s when I added “Alumni” to Happy Hannah.   I do refer to her as my Chunky Spiritual Being sometimesway-cool

(Technically, I guess it should be Alumnus…is that the singular??  Shudda paid better attention in school :-))

Can’t wait to see the pawprint!  Maybe you, your son and your wife could get a paw tatoo…one for each of you totaling three.heart

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Awww I love the way Charlie keeps showing you that he is always close by. What a great sign!

If you would like to start a blog and want some help just Private Message myself or Admin, we are happy to help. And here is that Alumni thread that Sally mentioned. Hope to see you there.

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I did not intend to post here again but this is the place for the way I feel today.  It’s my birthday and everyone is calling/texting me “happy birthday”.  It will be 3 weeks tomorrow since I lost Charlie.  I’m losing it today, had to leave work early.  The only thing I want for my birthday I can’t have.  Just needed to vent a little.

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Nothing wrong with posting. It’s only been three weeks. That’s really not a long time at all. 

Take your time, don’t rush it. Post as often as you want/need to about Charlie. 

If Charlie were here, what would he want you to have for your birthday? 

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Consider how long Charlie was a part of your life. 

Three weeks of grieving is not long at all.  Each of us deals with this part of the journey in our own way- don’t compare yourself to others and certainly don’t let anyone tell you how long is appropriate to grieve. 

Come here whenever you need to, we understand.

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Rocky’s dad said

If Charlie were here, what would he want you to have for your birthday?   

  Good suggestion David.

  It will be interesting to jear how Charlie would want you to spend this birthday.

I know one thing for sure.  He’s celebrating like crazy the day you were born with a huge party at the Bridge.  Had you  not been born, he could never have had the best life any dog could hope for with anyone but you!! 🙂 🙂  There would be no Carl (your two legged son), and Charlie would never have k own the @ove of your son.

And goodness knows, you and Charlie have touched us all and we are so grateful for the privilege of traveling by your side.

So, along with Charlie, we thank you for being born!   And, as a nod to Charlie, try and ccelebrate in a way that Charlie would want.

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