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This post written by a Hank's Mom, a Tripawds member who happens to be a vet, is must-reading for anyone struggling with knowing "when it's time."

"Knowing When It's Time"

So, then, how do we know? How do we know when it’s the right time? The right time to minimize suffering and maximize quality of life? The right time to be able to be strong and say good-bye? How do we know if its too early? Or too late? I have realized that this type of thinking will send most down a rabbit hole they don’t want anything to do with. But, really, it is very, very simple…..

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I have been feeling like our time is fast approaching for a few weeks now. I want to do what is best for Spike, but I also have this hope for him to be happy again. 

He had his surgery last week and I feared his pre amputation blood tests would come back and not allow surgery or he wouldn't respond well to the anesthesia, but all went well.

He came home and our first few days were terrible. He wasn't eating, he didn't want to go outside, he was leaking urine and not pooping. He wandered and he shook. I couldn't be the person taking care of him because I also have a new baby and this broke my heart.

Yesterday I picked up appetite stimulants and then his incision started bleeding and we went for an urgent vet visit. The leaking of fluids....

....as I typed this, I got the phone call. IT IS TIME. They believe the cancer has spread to his spinal cord after being agitated by the surgery.

Going to say goodbye to him. I am not ready for this. 

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I have been feeling like our time is fast approaching for a few weeks now. I want to do what is best for Spike, but I also have this hope for him to be happy again. 

He had his surgery last week and I feared his pre amputation blood tests would come back and not allow surgery or he wouldn't respond well to the anesthesia, but all went well.

He came home and our first few days were terrible. He wasn't eating, he didn't want to go outside, he was leaking urine and not pooping. He wandered and he shook. I couldn't be the person taking care of him because I also have a new baby and this broke my heart.

Yesterday I picked up appetite stimulants and then his incision started bleeding and we went for an urgent vet visit. The leaking of fluids....

....as I typed this, I got the phone call. IT IS TIME. They believe the cancer has spread to his spinal cord after being agitated by the surgery.

Going to say goodbye to him. I am not ready for this.   

I am so grieved for you to read this.  I wish it were otherwise.  My boy's cancer did seem to incur on his spinal column more swiftly than anyone expected. Are they seeing pronounce neuro sysmptoms?  Were the margins so poor?  My heart really goes out to you.

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Lisa, Minneapolis

On October 27, 2016, nearly 6 months after amputation, and 18 months since his cancer likely started, we lost Pofi to a recurrence of Soft Tissue Sarcoma in his spine quite suddenly.  His Daddy and I miss him terribly along with his canine sister, Mia, and two feline siblings, Lucia and Cliff.

Blog: Pofi, Peripheral Nerve Sheath Tumor Amputation

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Ohhhhhh my gosh! It broke my heart to read your first post, I'm so sorry. There just isn't any easy way to prepare for this. When things happen this fast it leaves you feeling like the ground got pulled out from underneath your feet. I am so, so sorry. 

I know it's probably too late at this point, but I want to throw it out there: are the vets certain the cancer has spread? What diagnostics were done to reach this conclusion? I'm just curious, and in no way do I want to confuse you even more. I just always hope that every animal gets a long, happy life after surgery. We've seen comebacks happen here many, many times and I'll hold out hope for Spike too. Please let us know how we can help you during this very difficult time OK? Don't forget, our Tripawds Helpline is also available if you want to talk live to one of us.

With many hugs from us to you.

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Sending love and hugs. I do hope they can give you some answers to the questions Jerry asked with some certainty and backed up by the tests they did.

Our thoughts are with you.

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If there was an avatar image that truly showed the connection we have with our fur-babies it would be yours. My heart is broken for you. I can totally relate as our Harmony didn't recover from her surgery either.

But you have to remember you only had a partial glimpse into Spike's condition. I'm afraid we would be paralyzed with fear if we knew everything. And that paralization would keep us from relieving the pain our fur-babies can't relay to us. Truly that is our charge:

Proverbs 12:10 - "A righteous person cares for the needs of his animal . . . "

Spike is snuggling in the bosom of Saint Francis as a substitute until you're both reunited at the Bridge.

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I saw your goodbye blog post before I saw this thread.   I am so sorry.   Cancer is just horrible, and so unfair.

Otis - 106 pound lab/Dane mix, lost his right front leg to osteosarcoma on Febuary 9, 2016.  Four rounds of carboplatin completed in April, 2016.  Lung mets August 25, 2016.  Said goodbye too soon on September 4, 2016.   Lost his adopted sister, Tess, suddenly on October 9, 2016. likely due to hemangiosarcoma.  

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