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You could never post that too many times, it is the most beautiful tribute I think I have ever seen. I don't have that kind of talent, and the amount of pictures, moods, activities, and love that you showed in that tribute is more than words can ever describe.
Omg, you even got the call that he made it through the surgery and was ok. I cannot imagine the feeling that went through you when you were sitting there relieved and then got the next calls. I know me, I cut through the 
and get to the point. I expect the same be done for me whether i want to hear it or not because that is how I process things. If it were me, I would need to know exactly what happened, when it happened, and how. It's just my makeup.. probably part of the Capricorn in me lol. I cannot speak for you. Everybody is different and it takes different things to bring closure to people. If I thought something were not done correctly, I would fight, I might not always be right but it's just how I am. Other people would argue that it is done, over, you cannot change what has happened. Knowing more might break you down worse and not be healthy for you. It might be good to just walk away and know that he will always have a piece of your heart that is all his, and will be forever. He loves you just as much as you love him, don't ever forget that. He will always be around you in spirit. That feeling is almost tangible, and I believe it exists. Take some time for yourself, if you can, and just decide not to decide. I cannot even imagine that you have even been able to fully absorb it all, it must be so overwhelming.
Please try not to forget your family, there is no way that the loss of that angel has not affected them hard also. This is a time that you should all try to support each other. And like I said, everybody processes things differently and there is no right or wrong. Each way has to be respected. When you have such a loss it is easy for people to get defensive and argumentative. For all of your sakes maybe you should try to sit and talk. Share how you are feeling, try to support each other and maybe that will help start your healing process if you haven't already done that. I cannot tell you how many times my husband and I have just out of the blue had a Rosie memory, laughed about something silly she did or something that she loved doing, and before you know it we were crying our eyes out and hugging. It has been 5 years, she has the same piece of my heart that she always has. I wish I could give you a hug. I am a total stranger I know, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your crew.
Jackie
Hugs,
Jackie, Bo, Andy, Oscar, Phoebe, and the coolest feral tripawd kitty Huckleberry 
I am sorry that you had to go through this experience. 🙁 This is the toughest part of the journey. No one can tell you when to stop grieving. It's very personal. It's fine your video got posted twice. It was a beautiful tribute to Darby. He is watching over you.
hugs
Michelle & Angel Sassy
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07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013
05/04/2006 - Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19 fought cancer for 4 months.
"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Darby. The video is a lovely tribute, I teared up watching it. He was so expressive and the sleeping pictures are so precious. I love his bond with his cat and dog pals. I am sure that he sent you the cloud formation to let you know he was OK and watching over you.
My deepest condolences. As others have said, grieving is personal, so take your time and follow your heart.
Tracey & Tai
Thank you for staying connected. We care soooo deeply. We understand all the emotions, the questions, the anger, the unbearable grief. Yiur world has stopped and you feel.like you are sruck in a nightmare.
And then you get a CLEAR message from Darby....straight from his eternal Soul zapped right into your Soul! And for a moment your heart KNOWS the truth...Darby is still with you, free of pain, Yes, those moments are brief at first. It's like they are an interruption to your grief. Eventually....and we all.promise you this.... The KNOWING that Darby is still with you become everlasting, and the periodic vrief is just a brief interruption.
As Jackie said in her earlier post, Darby wss NOT in an aware state at all! Four hours out of surgery he was still very much under all the strong hospital meds, anesthesia, etc. Nompain, nomlanic regardless of what was going on outwardly...he was completely out of it!! And zi mean this, he was still high as a mot a d probably thought he was home with you anyway. So put that part of your grief to rest. He was NOT in pain. And quite frankly, even if you had been "there", he would not have been aware of it. He was in an altered state with all the drugs, etc.
As far as "students", as Jackie outlined, clearly he was being monitored and, quite frankly, probably getting far better attention from them than from the actual Surgeon himself.
A d we can all tell you, regardless of how or when the transition takes plzce, it is "normal" to focus on that aspect at first with great intensity. Not that it helps, but it is part of the grieving process we have to go through first. Then magic moments like the one that happened with you and Darby's cloud, or like your "pajama church" experience....Then those momentts that matter, that really matter, can come through to'you more and more!
I'm so glad you are avle to come back and share your thiughrts, share your grief, and share the magical moments of Darby while he was in his earth clothes, and now while he is in his "cloud clothes"! We grieve too. Although we are here ro help you, your posts are helping us too. All our losses break our hearts. And then experiences like yours, .add an extra layer of hurt to our sadness and it makes us feel like we have been gutted. Devastated.
But tnrough you and the lovely celebration of Darby's life video your daughter created, our hearts smile as we get to know Darby more and more. Yes Darby, and I mean this in a "manly way".....you are just so darn PRETTY!!
Pictures????? Do you jave some .more picutres? And keep looking at the clouds! Can't wait for you to see some clouds in the form of a kiss! 🙂
Lots of love
Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle and Frankie too!
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Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
I am as shocked and saddened as everyone else who has offered their support! Darby is beautiful in his pictures and his spirit shines through very clearly! I also have teared up this morning while reading your post and watching the brilliant collage of pictures that your daughter (?) helped you with! Well done!
i Have to say ditto to what everyone else has to say... there is nothing in this world that can change how things happened. My Mojo was one example.... I was very angry with my vet for a long time for the extra suffering that I felt was induced onto my very special boy, when we were forced to say goodbye. But I came to realize that my vet did everything she did out of kindness and care, there was no malicious intent, but things went wrong and I KNOW that a great lesson was learned that day with my boy!!! (I try very hard not to think back on that day, but it is there, as clear as mud, always!!!) That’s when I give my boy a spirit snuggle!
My heart goes out to you during this very difficult time. Darby is surrounding you with lots of people who may not know you, but care deeply for you! We empathize with your pain, we understand the huge void that you are feeling right now! There is nothing in this world that should stop you from feeling all of what you are feeling! The Loss of a loved one is huge! Pets, more so than humans show us unconditional love on a daily basis, how can we not mourn and grieve greatly, for the loss of that love!
Do talk about Darby with your family, keep his spirit alive within your home still, he will never leave you entirely! Maybe you can make a thing of it, to tell a Darby story every day? Through tears and smiles you will all get through this as a family! Darby is and always will be with you guys and there is nothing that could make him more proud than to know that he has made your family unit just a little bit stronger!
Many hugs to you and your family and special spirit snuggles to your VERY HANDSOME Darby!
(May I say that he reminds me of a beautiful stallion?!)
Petra and her Super Stu
Remember...“live in the moment!“ 
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