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Oh Alicia. My dear Alicia-- I wish I could remember who's blog it was on but so end was recently comforted when someone wrote about. Ever knowing "why". It also addressed the "what if" and the "why didn't.. and the "should have" and the should not have".....all the second d guessing things everyone beats themselves up with. And the bottom li e of this letter was that no single o e ting would have changed the outcome and that he will never know why. I'm doing such a poor job of trying to explain this .I hohow so done will figure out the post I'm talking about and the letter their friend wrote them.
Your Daisy girl could not have been more loved and could not have been more spoiled!! Daisy's to e was way to short but she is a beacon of hope for everyone. She fought valiantly and did not let "it" take away her eternal light that surrounded you during her time here. "It" couldn't touch that beautiful soul and delightful personality; that was so irrepressible.
Your devotion to Daisy is at a level that we all hope we ca
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
I just miss my little Daisy, my little girl, Dooey, Doozie, the Dooz, doodlebug, little devil sooooooooooooooo much 
Stupid, stupid, stupid HO. Even though I think the pain was somewhat controlled by the pamidronate, I think everything going on in her little body - HO, 3 lung mets, enlarged lymph nodes - was just too overwhelming. I'm glad she got some time in the sun on her last day (stupid, unpredictable Seattle weather) and she ate 1/2 a Dairy Queen soft serve cone (she wouldn't eat anything else that day), and she gave us both kisses so all in all it was a good last day. The decision didn't have to be made in a panic. However I didn't want to make the decision. - I didn't want to let go of my baby. There was no moment of clarity for me when I knew it was "time" - I wish there had been so I would feel more settled about my decision. I knew she wasn't herself (likely exhausted by everything going on) but she never mentally checked out which made it harder to say goodbye. I cannot say that I made the wrong decision or that it wasn't time - just that I am not at peace with that decision.......yet. I just want her back in my arms for one more cuddle, snuggle, kiss...anything! As Kirsty said, I think there is a strong bond given everything she/we went through. Carrying her up and down stairs, hand-feeding, giving meds, waking up in the middle of the night to check on her, soothing her, reassuring her - I feel..........lost, alone........
Alicia....my computer cutoff so sorry for the Unfinished" note. Maybe it was meant to be as I came back to finish it just now ad saw your latest post
My family physician (the dogs' vet) told me almost every single person he's dealt with over the last 35 years never felt it was exactly the right time. I know personally, sometimes I felt like it was a"day" too soon or a "day" too late..........and I'm much more at peace when it was a day too soon than a day too late.
Listen to your heart Alicia. That's where Daisy is speak I g to you now----that is when Daisy spoke to you then.....she let you know it was her time and your heat understood.
Right now you are hurting so badly you can hardly catch your next breath. Right now the sadness is overriding every joyous memory. Daisy wants you .....when your grieve lessons ever so slightly...wants you to hurry up and remember her with a smile. She would not want you to be at peace knowing she had the absolute best life a loved, spoiled dog could have.
We can't take away your feeling of loneliness but we are all surrounding you with our love and understanding. We want to soothe your sadness as you were there soothing your Daisey girl, but we cannot.
Daisy took a piece of your heart with her and she left a piece of her heart with you. In a moment of stillness...maybe not now...it soon , you will hear her speak to you. She's wagging her tail now just thinking about making that happy connection with you......maybe you can hear her now....maybe?
Love all the loving little nicknames you adorned her with. She is indeed, a Dioxide of a dog!
Sending you love and surrounding you with Daisy's eternal and infinite loving energy,
Sally and Happy Hannah
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Geeeeezzzz..you would have to have a tablet to under stand it types what it wants half the time.......I typed DOOZIE. have no idea how dioxide for there.........
Does Daisy have a sense of humor?? Does she think that would be funny??Does this have her paw print all over it:-)
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Thank you Sally and Happy Hannah. We are anxious to get her ashes back so we can be close to her again and I think Steve is right - that will help with the healing process. She and Dakota are our first pets as adults (we were not around for our family pets' passings to the rainbow bridge) so we have never had to truly deal with the loss of a pet until now. We adopted Dakota right after we bought our first home together and Daisy a year later. We are still in that house so have a lot of memories here and that makes it better and worse at the same time. I think of how much I've changed since bringing my 'little dog' home - end of my twenties, through my thirties, and now into my forties and she was a constant - a happy, loving, tail-wagging constant. I appreciate your kind words and support and those of the other members of the Tripawd community. I appreciate you all listening and letting me cry and vent - I couldn't get through this without all of you. Xoxoxo
Sooooooo hard, so darn hard. It is sort of bittersweet right now to be in the home Dakota and Daisy shared with you. Having lot numerous beloved dogs, I can tell you that eventually the memories of them being with you at home will feel very comforting and very sweet. It hurts too much right now to imagine anything feeling better ever
I think when you have Daisy's ashes she's back you will feel she is home with you. You may want to plant some flowers or a strong lovely tree using some of her ashes as nutrients for the soil. I think it's very life affirming when nature continuously promises nothing ever dies, it just changes form and supports new life.
Just know we are all thinking of you. Again, there,s no group of people who understand better than the tripawd community. Please stay connected and keep posting......every hour if it will help!!
Be open to Daisy coming to you in your dreams.....with Dakota running y her side. It Iwill happen
Surrounding you with peace and the "knowing" that all is well with Daisy.
Sally and Happy Hannah
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Believe me, my people know how you feel, exactly. We had the same kind of relationship together. I came along when they first got married and got their first house, I was there with them for a decade, that's a long time! When I left, they cried for days, weeks, months and even now 5 years later, feeling the loss still creeps up on them when certain songs play on the radio, or they visit places we loved together. But you know what? They learned that time is what it takes to heal, and be able to get through the day without breaking down. And you know what else? It's OK to go through that, it's OK to feel like you aren't sure about your decision, to wonder if maybe there was something else that could have been done. Humans need time to process that in their heads, but it does happen eventually.
Cry all you want, feel what you need to feel, eventually, you will smile when you think of Daisy. I can't say when that will happen, but it will. If it helps you at all, create a collage, write about her in a Tripawds blog, share the happy times so that when you think of her and your heart starts to hurt, you can instantly pull up a happy memory from all of those years you spent together.
Vent, cry, talk, all you want here, we totally get it.
{{{hugs}}}}
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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So sorry to hear about you losing daisy. No words Will take away the pain. But I hope you will seek refuge in the love and many special moments you shared together. You gave it you're all and never gave up on her. She knows this and loves you for it. She will ALWAYS be with you. And remember, that it is not "goodbye" rather "until you meet again". I hope you find comfort and strength in knowing that we are all with you.
Stay strong
Maricela and spirit Bruno
Maricela and Spirit Bruno
I came across this wonderful story on beezerandboomer.com. This gentleman has gone through what we are going through and explains the quilt and self-doubt we all experience. You might want to check it out.
Very very sad and sorry for your great loss
Debby and Louie
belai123 said
I came across this wonderful story on beezerandboomer.com.
Doug Koktavy's book is both a touching story and an excellent resource for anyone coping wit anticipatory grief. Read our review here:
Help for Coping with Anticipatory Grief
Or, listen to or Tripawd Talk Radio interview with the author:
Free Podcast: The Legacy of Beezer and Boomer
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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