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Mannie, my heart breaks for you, I am so very sorry. Things happened so quickly, I can't even imagine how your life must feel so upside down right now. I hope that you can take some comfort in knowing that Bogi was very much aware of how much you loved him and how much he meant to your family. Because of this, his spirit will always be by your side. When you least expect it, he will give you a sign that he is watching over you.
Yes, as hard as it was to do, you did the most loving thing by not allowing him to suffer. Unfortunately now your heartache begins and there's no way around it when you've loved someone so deeply.
If you want to talk to someone, our Resources page has the following list of Grief Support Resources:
Grief Support
- Colorado State University’s Argus Institute offers nationwide counseling for anyone experiencing challenges surrounding their pet’s health care.
- The Legacy of Beezer and Boomer is a great book for anyone coping with the loss of a pet or anticipatory grief.
- Author Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed. has two great articles about pet loss Defining “Quality of Life” and Ten Tips on Coping with Pet Loss.
- The University of Pennsylvania School of Veterinary Medicine has a Pet Loss and Bereavement for Pet Owners section on their website.
- For a list of veterinary hospice care resources and grief support counselors, visit Land of Pure Gold Foundation’s Vet Hospice Care page (scroll down about halfway).
- For pet loss comfort and support, please visit “Pet Loss Articles and Books Resource” by Christine Davis
- Additional pet loss insight can be found at “Grieving the Loss of a Pet”
I am so very sorry. Please know we are here for you, you can come here anytime and share Bogi's life with us, whatever it takes to help you through this.
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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Mannie,
I wish I had more comforting words for you and that I could make your pain go away... When I saw the update on Bogi's Facebook page, I cried for you.
Just know that we are here for you whenever you need us.
Sending lots of love and comfort to you.
Mica
Mannie
So sorry for your loss of Bogi. My heart goes out to you.
Esther and Snoop
Oh, Mannie...I am so so so sorry for your loss.
Know that YES, Bogi knew, absolutely, how much you loved him. He trusted you to take care of him and make the hard decisions, and you did that, even though it broke your heart to do it. Do not second-guess yourself, not for one moment.
You are strong, and you CAN get through this. You have your daughter and husband to lean on, and you can always come here, too.
I wish there were more I could do for you...but know that you are in my thoughts. Hugs to you, and to your family. <3
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So so so sorry to read about your loss. I saw your facebook post over the weekend. I was thinking about you. Stay strong, time heals all wounds.
Heather & Barret
Barret was diagnosed with Hemangiopericytoma May 16, 2013. Front left leg/scapula/pectoral muscle was amputated on June 11, 2013 and we've never looked back. Follow our story on http://barret.t.....pawds.com/ and read my column on That Pet Blog
I'm so sorry to hear your brave boy Bogi has lost his battle. He fought so courageously. And you will too, because that's what Bogi would want you to do. We all know how hard this part of the journey is, because we've all been there. But Bogi fought bravely, and so must you. We are all here for you.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. It hurts like hell, I know. You did your very best for Bogi and he knows that.
Liberty (Libby) was diagnosed with OSA on 1-22-13. Right front amputation on 1-31-13. No IV Chemo. Metronomic Therapy started 2-19-13 along with supplements and some home cooking. Lungs clear until 1-06-14. She's still her happy, hoppy, bossy self. Living the dog life to the fullest and a proud Winter Warrior. :) RIP my Libby 4-21-03 to 3-19-14
Ohhhh my dear Mannie. We are all crying with you. I am soooooo sorry. Our hearts break with you. I know the despair and sadness hurts beyond words. Your heart IS broken but' at some point, it will start to mend piece by piece because Bogi is still in your heart. Feeling his presence and rememverting the happy times will help clue it back together.
You did everything possible...and even the impossible..for your boy Bogi and he knew it! He also knew that he could trust you to give him the release he needed. He knew as soon as you saw him not eat the cats, you would know what he wanted...and you did. Out of the highest form of love a human can show for their pets, you honored his wishes. He wagged his tail because he was so happy to see you and knew he would be helped then.
I can assure you,there was nothing else to try. My Mickey Motto passed from liver failure Memorial Day weekend. Once the yellowing of the eyes and gums
became painfully visible, the basic collapse followed and the little glimmers of "quality" that we all hold o to so desperately were absolutely gone. There is NOTHING that can be done at that point. You made exactly the right decision tnat Vogi NEEDED you to make.
He is your forever dog who has left you with so e of the ost i credible memories anyone can have. His love for you and your for him is infinite. Right ow your pain is so immense' you don't even know how you can catch your next breath...or why you should even bother. But you will, because Bogi wants you to. Bogi knkws you will be missing his "earthly presence" forever, but he also knows you will soon draw on all the wonderful memories he deliberately left flr you.
Bogi would want you to think of him and be happy ...even if' for now, it's just flr a few seconds.....if you can, force yourself to just think of ONE funny thing he did that made you laugh out loud.. If you can't think of it right ow, maybe your daughter could. What was that one think that ne did that ade everyone laugh out loud? Did he realize it was funny? Did he d it on urpose must to see you smile? He loves it when you think of him and smile.
We love you and Vogi Mannie. We are here for you. We are all family and we all understand. Please stay connected to us....every hour every dayif it helps.
The world is a better place because your Bogi was in it. Always know that. Thank you for allowing s to get to knlw him.
From our hearts,
Sally and Hapy Hannah
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
I'm so very sorry for your loss. You were very brave just like Bogi and did the hardest thing in the world, but you did it out of love for him. I know this pain seems unbearable, but know that Bogi knows how much his family loved him and he will forever be in your heart.
God speed Bogi.
Patricia & Mighty Atlas
Cancer f*cking sucks....
the good thing about this place is... we all understand what you are going through.. especailly those of us who have lost their furbaby to the Bridge. And, I'm not going to sugar coat it.. it F*CKING HURTS!!!!! It hurts ALOT!!! And yes.. eventually the pain will fade... but it never really goes away... I still have moments about my sweet boy Franklin.. and it will have been 3 months on the 15th... and I mean "break down blubbering, snot running, red faced" moments. And then again.. I have those moments where I smile cause I remember something.. I close my eyes, savour the moment and only a tear falls...
Yes.. it does get better dealing with it... but it doesn't happen overnight... otherwise that would mean that we just didn't care. And from reading your words, you cared alot. And so did Bogi!!
so, it's okay to scream here... cry here... vent here.... release your frustration here... we all understand... and it's ok to go down into your basement and scream, swear if you want to.. although, try not to scare your hubby like I did.... lol
But remember... no matter what.... that cancer is so limited
It cannot cripple love, It cannot shatter hope
It cannot corrode faith, It cannot destroy peace
It cannot kill friendship, It cannot suppress memories
It cannot silence courage, It cannot invade the soul
It cannot steal eternal life, It cannot conquer your spirit.
and most of all.. it will never remove the love you had for Bogi!
Christine..... with Franklin in her heart ♥
Franklin, he was the Happiest Dog on Three Legs! Diagnosed 09/26/2012 with Osteosarcoma, amputated 12/4/2012. Had a wonderful 5 1/2 months painfree until he ran for the Bridge on 5/15/2013. Always in my heart, and always a guardian angel of my pack... You can follow his Tripawd Adventures, before and after, in my blog, Frank'n'Farter!
Mannie,
Use those resources Rene posted. It will help. Everyone here knows & understands. We grieve each & every loss here. Sometimes we have to take breaks to save ourselves. I cry everytime someone crosses. Thank you for sharing your Bogi with us. We were all pulling for him
Hugs
Michelle & Sassy
Sassy is a proud member of the Winter Warriors. Live long, & strong Winter Warriors.
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07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013
05/04/2006 - Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19 fought cancer for 4 months.
"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."
Mannie, I can only echo Michelle and Christine and Patricia and Sally and...on and on. May our love all surround and comfort you and bring you peace. You and your family still hold, and always will hold, Bogi in your hearts and so he is always with you. Take care of yourself.
hugs and hearts, Liz and Roxie
Mannie-
My heart breaks for you, but know the decision you made was because you love Bogi so so much. You now have a beautiful guardian angel watching over you. He will send you signs to help you through this. We are here to help in whatever way possible.
Blessings-
Luanne and Shooter
Spirit Shooter was a Miniature Australian Shepherd who was diagnosed with a MCT and had a LF amp 1/28/13 at 13-1/2 years old.
Shooter crossed the Bridge on 8/28/13, his 7 month ampuversary and two weeks from his 14th birthday.
Thank you everyone. I now BLAME myself because ever since i gave im the Piroxicam he went downhill Saturday I truly think I did this to Bogi i POISONED him with this damn medicine i cant get over that I woke up last night sweating and throwing up I cant eat i cant function and now the thought that i killed him is destroying me even more LAST week he was fine we went to the beach twice and ever since Saturday when i started Piroxicam now that i think about it he went downhill i didnt even put one and one together until now. I cant take this anymore..... I just cant
Why Why did God take my baby from me Why? THis is so not fair. Maybe the vet didnt do everything they could why didnt the vet say Piroxicam poisoned his liver I rememer 2 yrs ago my mom took a similar drug and her liver enzymes went thru the roof Maybe something could have been done. Maybe the damn vet should have never suggested the piroxicam knowing his liver was full of mets. I have so many questions and so much guilt now
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