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We brought Emily's ashes home today. My son was actually the one that went and picked them up. I am doubly grateful to OSU for the plaster handprints. The funeral home did a pawprint with ink but it is not as nice as what the hospital did. Also, I was disapointed that even though they called and got her birthdate and full name the little plaque only says Emily Grace.
The plaque that goes on it had a sticky back that we had to put on ourselves. They did include a little envelop with some of her hair.
Maybe I am handling getting her ashes, which are a poor substitute for her, by being bitchy. Tomorrow will be two weeks. Yuck! I hate this.
Debra & Angel Emily
P.S. I was going to try to polish this up but what the heck, it is how I feel right now.
Debra & Emily, a five year old doberman mix, who was diagnosed with an osteosaecoma. She had a right rear leg amputation on May 19, 2009. On November 10, 2009 she earned her wings and regained her fourth leg.
Straight from the heart is always best. Thanks for sharing.
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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Oh, Debra, I'm so sorry you are disappointed. I hope in time you are able to be at peace. You have been such an inspiration to all of us as you continue to be strong and post and support all of us. Hugs to you.
Shanna & Spirit Trouble ~ Trouble gained her wings 3/16/2011, a 27 1/2 month cancer survivor, tail wagging. RIP sweetheart, you are my heart and soul. Run free at Rainbow Bridge.
The November Five - Spirits Max, Cherry, Tika, Trouble & Nova. 11/2008 - 3/2013 An era ends as Queen Nova crossed the Bridge.
More hugs.
How unfeeling of them.
I hope things look better tomorrow.
Mary
Cemil and mom Mary, Mujde and Radzi….appreciating and enjoying Today
Debra,
I understand your feelings... sorrow, anger, etc... There's no words I can say that will make you feel any better right now... just know that I care... and my thoughts are with you...
Luv,
Angel Jake's Mom
Jake, 10yr old golden retriever (fractured his front right leg on 9/1, bone biopsy revealed osteosarcoma on 9/10, amputation on 9/17) and his family Marguerite, Jacques and Wolfie, 5yr old german shepherd and the newest addition to the family, Nala, a 7mth old Bengal mix kittie. Jake lost his battle on 11/9/2009, almost 8 weeks after his surgery. We will never forget our sweet golden angel… http://jakesjou.....ipawds.com ….. CANCER SUCKS!
No - having been able to hear the wonderful story of Emily, your obvious devotion, and how meaningful bringing Emily back home would have meant to any of us, I will not accept your describing yourself using the b-word. If you cannot express your frustrations, your hurt, and you disappointment to this community of supporting friends then it is us who have let you down. Personally, while the people who have handled the cremation of my precious companions have done so excellently, I have never trusted them to do a plaque. I have always designed the exact wording and layout, went to a trophy shop, and ordered it specifically. It is a disappointment to all of us here that this moment could not have been done with the diginity, grace, precision, and love that defined Emily and yourself.
Please accept our vicarious hug and know that Emily is anxiously waiting that joyous time of reunion when you will never have to part again - ever.
Bob & Cherry
Debra,
No polishing needed. Who else are you going to vent to??
It will get better.
Karen
You can vent here anytime, that's why the Forums exist. And you have every right to feel the way you do.
{{{{hugs}}}}
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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I don't think you're being bitchy. It's not exactly a fun time. Along with Mac's ashes the vet did a paw print and even though they knew we preferred Mac they put MacLeod and then stuck two tacky red heart buttons on top. They were trying to be nice and indeed it was a very nice gesture that they did it at all but when I saw it for the first time at home I wasn't spouting very friendly things. The details mean so much to us and that just shows how much we truly loved them. The physical body remains and keepsakes are nothing in comparison to the memories....which are the most important.
Debra,
Being angry is part of grief, feel free to let that out. We all completely understand. And how upsetting to not have such a permanent memorial come out 100% the way you wanted. 🙁
Hang in there. Getting her ashes back were going to be hard no matter what. You've now survived that hump. You are in my prayers for light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there and feel free to vent here!
Dawn and Raven
Rottie Raven, osteosarcoma at 8-1/2 years old, amputation in October '09 and in February '10 due to liver mets he went back to heaven where he came from. raven.tripawds.com
Now I have Miles, rottie mix amputee from a shelter and traveled 1500 miles to find his way here through the Rescue Railroad thanks to tripawds.com. miles.tripawds.com
Hi Debra,
I am so sorry to hear that you are disappointed in the memorial you were given. I never thought much about the cremation process or what I would get back. They didn't give me any sort of plaque, which is fine. I got the ashes and they did the paw print on clay too. I agree with the rest, you are not being bitchy, this whole process is hard and I think part of the grief. I like Bob, Cherry's dad's, idea about getting the plaque done himself, I never thought of that. At the moment Lulu's ashes sit in a little fabric chest with her collar wrapped around them (I left her collar on when they took her away, she always loved wearing her collar, I think she know that it meant the she belonged to someone and someone belonged to her) with the paw print right next to it on my bookshelf, the only place I really have to display things.
It's all so hard, there are moments when we think we are getting better, it's not hurting so intensely, then it all comes back in a wave of tears and pain. I am glad you decided to share your feelings here as I think we may understand what you are going through better than most, that we know that these little things can be very important and difficult. As always, I am not sure if my words have helped at all, but I (we) are always here to help and support you, as you have done so wonderfully for us. Sending you hugs, good thoughts and sloppy Olive kisses from afar . . .
All the best,
Stacy, Angel Lulu and Olive
I think it always hurts when we realize that what is our heart and soul is really just a business to someone else. Remember to take what you have and memorialize your baby for YOU. I like that Stacy made a small "shrine." I think whatever works for you is important. Also, I see no problem in changing the whole plaque when it's appropriate and feasable for you.
May 2001-Jan 21, 2010.....I'm a dog and I'm AWESOME!..... Always.
Well, a day has passed and I think maybe I was too critical about everything because it was a defensive mechanism so I didn't have to think about it being Emily in that box. It was very nice of the funeral home to do a pawprint of any kind. It wasn't an extra fee. Also, it was thoughtful of them to give us a small envelope of Emily's hair. (Although we still have plenty of that in our house! LOL) The box is nice but I am still disapointed with the plague and love Bob's idea of getting my own made. Someplace else did my first dog's cremation and I have no plague at all, no paw print and no lock of hair. Tristan's name is on a sticker on the bottom. My poor cat, Timmie, just has a tin with a blue peice of paper on it. So in comparrison this place did a super job! I was able to appreciate it better today. I just miss Emily so much.
I sure appreciate everyones support and comfort though. I think I did just need to vent. Thanks to all of you.
Debra
Debra & Emily, a five year old doberman mix, who was diagnosed with an osteosaecoma. She had a right rear leg amputation on May 19, 2009. On November 10, 2009 she earned her wings and regained her fourth leg.
Lets face it, getting your beloved back in a box pretty much SUCKS! Plaque, sticker, whatever. I had to make my own memorials to have it be even half way right and they are still not enough. Ever since she died I have wanted to take my Rosa to the woods where we spent so much time together and build a memorial to her there, of stones, and lichen covered branches, and moss, and feathers, and wildflowers, scattering her ashes around it, and along the trails that we frequented. But still, coming up on 4 years after her death, I cannot bring myself to open that box, to feel her ashes between my fingers, as once I felt her soft ears, bone fragments in my hand. My heart would explode all over again.
Debra, my thoughts are with you, give yourself the freedom to feel everything, including the love we here in this Tripawds community send your way! This is your forum, as it is all of ours, to tell the truth of your experience, no matter what that truth may be.
Martha
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