When it comes to cancer treatment, it’s not about what things cost. It’s about maximizing quality of life and preparing for the inevitable.
I acknowledge the fact that it will take me someday. But this is by no means an excuse for complacency. And it is no reason to be sad. Au contraire, mon chien. It is a fact of life, and death. And it calls for celebration of every beautiful day.
As the alcoholics say, acknowledgement is the first step. But it is the most important one. Denial is not just a river in Egypt. It can wreck havoc on human emotions.
It also showed me what great support people can have for others in need.
But why must it be so hard in the first place? People get pets, knowing their lives are finite. Yet they immediately hide that truth somewhere deep, and wrap their hearts around us so tight, that when our time comes, it is hard to let go.
Since I first got sick, my people have been trying to prepare for the sad day when they will have to say goodbye. Yes, it will be unbearably hard on them. But they like to think it will be easier having had time to ready themselves emotionally. But exactly how does one prepare for such a dark reality?
I say listen to Lao Tzu. Understand the truth. Become tolerant. Welcome reality.
If you don’t realize the source,
you stumble in confusion and sorrow.
When you realize where you come from,
you naturally become tolerant, disinterested,
amused, kindhearted as a grandmother,
dignified as a king.
Immersed in the wonder of the Tao, you can deal
with whatever life brings you, and when death comes
you are ready.
– Lao Tzu
One thing is certain about my condition. My people have gained a much deeper appreciation for life. Every single bit of it. Instead of the stone which gets worn down by a river of tears, they strive to be more like the duck which lets the water roll off its back as it slowly paddles upstream.
How zen of them. We’ll see if it works. But if I have my way, no time too soon.