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I mentioned in Rocky’s thread that I made an appointment with a grief counselor. I know there are places to go online for support, but I wanted something more personal. Several people asked me to let them know how it went. 

I had my first session earlier this week. It was more of an introduction, but it felt good just to be able to talk about Rocky and his story. I have another session next week. I’m not sure at this point how many we’ll have. 

I did tell her that I was writing about Rocky here, and she encouraged me to keep doing that. 

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21 September 2017 - 10:34 am
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SUPER proud of you for going to the group! Oh my gosh that is awesome. Please do let us know how it goes.

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21 September 2017 - 10:52 am
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That is awesome that you are attending a counselor.  My vet had a list.  I never used them but should have.  I think it would have helped more than working through it myself.    I think sometimes it can help us put into perspective things.  I know of another member who is attending a group.

Good luck 🙂

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21 September 2017 - 10:53 am
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Good David!   So glad you started that kind of support!!   And we thank you for sharing anything that resonates with you after your sessions.   We all learn and benefit from each other in every aspect of this journey.

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I’m not sure if they have something like this in your area, but at the SPCA here they have a monthly group Pet Loss Support group session. I’m planning on going to the next one:

https://www.sfspca.org/resources/pet-loss-support

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I looked for a support group in my area, but couldn’t find one. I did find a counselor who supposedly specializes in pet loss grief, but I had already made the appointment with my counselor. I really liked her, so I’ll keep going to her. 

If I can find a group here, I’ll go to that as well. I tried the Colorado State online chat room , but I could never get them to send me a username/password to get in. 

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David, you were on my mind this week as I was meeting with the people at the Argus Institute at Colorado State. Please give them a call directly, they can connect you with a group OK? Let us know what you find.

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I got into the aplb chatroom last night. http://www.aplb…..etloss.cgi

It was a little chaotic because you had multiple conversations going on at the same time, but I’m going to try it again. I think it’s open every M-F from 8-10 ET.

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I”m so glad David. Let us know how it works for you OK?

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Had my second one-on-one session yesterday with the local counselor. It’s going to take time, but it helps. She suggested I try some coloring books. She said it may sound cheesy, but they can be very soothing. So I picked one up today. I haven’t used a coloring book in ages. I guess we’ll see how it goes. 

I also bought a couple of pet loss books for my iPad.

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Highly recommend MANDALA Coloring Books!!   These are actually designed to relieve stress and take you into a a place of calm….sort of a zen- type -meditation.

Go to AMAZON….type in Mandala Coloring Books……they have them designed from easy to very intricate.   Order a really large set of crayons and a reallynlarge set of colored pencils.

Of course, order from Amazon Smiles as a small portion is kicked back to Tripawds!

We want to see the results!!

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28 September 2017 - 8:12 pm
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She said it may sound cheesy, but they can be very soothing

My mom used coloring to help get her through some stressful times, and my aunt used them to help her recover from a stroke.  In the case of my aunt part of the coloring was to work on motor skills, but she found it really helped settle her mind.

And if you get a really pretty one you can put it on your fridge!

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I was a teacher for 16 years. I taught high school, so my students were anywhere from 13 to 20. I always kept a stack of coloring books and crayons in my classroom, much to the amusement of some of my fellow teachers. I know many of them thought it was silly or maybe that I was allowing my kids to slack off, but these were generally the same folks who thought my kids were “too old” to get stickers on their quizzes – I am here to tell you that there is no such thing as too old for stickers. The same is true for coloring books.

On test days, I would stack the books – about 20 or so of them – at the front of the room, along with a huge bin of crayons and even some boxes of them (which eventually merged with the bin … teenaged boys aren’t known for their excellent care of the easily torn or broken). When each child finished his or her test, they would hand it in to me and they had the option to color. What’s interesting is that, while it was fairly common for some to pick out a picture and color it in, it was more common among my male students and most common when I taught in low-income/high poverty populations … you know, the schools where, even on half days, we had to send them home with a bag lunch (required by law). I’d never read research or studies or anything fancy like that. I just knew that, after a “taxing” experience – such as a test – the kids loved to color. That said, I think you should try it. The Mandala books that Sally mentioned have some really beautiful designs but you will need fine markers or sharp colored pencils. It’s funny – I love the designs in those but am too picky about color to be able to complete one. I also lack patience. Those weren’t really a “thing” when I quit teaching, so the majority of my books are things like Strawberry Shortcake, Care Bears, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and – of course – tons of “Christmas” ones (I used to have the kids decorate their own ornament, tree, gingerbread house, Menorah, etc and hang them in the room). 

I hope coloring helps you. And I think I’ll go find that stack of books 🙂

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I got a posh coloring book from the local Barnes & Noble. I think it’s similar to the Mandela ones. They didn’t have crayons, so I got some of the markers which probably work better anyway. I’m going to try to color some tomorrow. 

David and Rocky (and Baxter now too!)

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Oooh! What a great idea. Please share photos, I’d love to see this.

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