The following Tripawd Tuesday post about “Awful August” was generously submitted by Spirit Dakota’s Mom, Shari. We know you’ll find her suggestions about coping with grief to be extremely helpful when trying to ease the pain of a broken heart.
August was a hard month for Tripawds members. We’ve lost family, a lot of family.
The goal is to take off the leg that’s causing problems and allow the dog to die of old age. I guess we sort of attained that goal, but I’m not satisfied.
And that statement there is largely what makes us human. Our dogs and cats are satisfied with however the day turns out. We are not. A hungry dog will go take a nap if there is no food. A homeless dog will make a nest somewhere out of the rain. An abandoned cat under a car will clean her face and paws the same as if she lived in a palace. In the face of disaster, their faces show little more than gracious endurance.
We humans obsess over that which we cannot control. If the fridge is empty, we open it anyway to see if magic has filled it. We bounce a check and then yell at the bank for our poor planning. If something horrible happens that we cannot change, we still waste hours trying to change it.
We are difficult to satisfy in general and we are never satisfied with how long we have with our animal friends. We are never ready for them to go. It’s not bad, but it is human.
If we really want to honor the lives of our companions who have gone on before us, perhaps a good way is to truly try to be more dog (or cat!) and to decide to be satisfied. Make the conscious choice to be content with what we have. Accept that we are not in control.
We will never be ready, but there is no shame there. That part of our humanity brings us closer to the divine that is elemental in our dogs and cats, the spark that is never extinguished. The part that makes the pain of the broken heart worth it. After they are gone, we have proof of how much they mattered in just how badly we hurt.
It’s OK not to be ready. It’s OK to want much more. It’s OK to have a broken heart. But if we can take a small step towards the same graceful acceptance of what we have that our animal friends demonstrate, I think we may end up happier. Or at least satisfied.
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