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1:46 pm
14 September 2012
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Its just been two days since she passed, but I am so loney and sad.. I cant think and all I want to do is cry. I know this is not normal but I do hurt..... Do I look for a new love or live with this emptyness?
2:27 pm
10 December 2011
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I'm so sorry for your loss. May Abby run forever free at the bridge. What you are feeling is normal. I have always cried for days after losing one of my furbabies. But know that it will get better as the days go by. You'll start to remember the funny things she did and it will bring a smile to your face instead of tears to your eyes.
Marla and Daisy
My Two Tripawds...Biscuit 
and Spirit Daisy 
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25 September 2009
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First of all, we send lots of hugs to you
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The pain of losing a loved one can run deep, and for most folks, it takes time before the heartache and feeling of being alone subsides. For some, it takes weeks, for others longer. There are no right ways to grieve, but grief counselors recommend giving some time before getting another dog, just to make sure you're strong enough to cope with such change in your life. Unfortunately grieving is part of expressing our deep love for our angel dogs, and there's no getting around it, I wish there was.
We have a Hospice Guide and Grief Support topic in Coping with Loss that might help you. Scroll through for reading suggestions and more and of course, we're always here as a place where you can vent and share stories of your sweet Abby.
My heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry.
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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2:46 pm
28 November 2011
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Personally, I think it would be abnormal if you weren't sad and grieving. It has been a month since we lost Zeus and I still cry often. In fact, just this past weekend we donated a bunch of his dog beds to the local shelter and I sat in the floor, surrounded by dog beds, sobbing for a long time before I could even load them into the car.
Everyone grieves differently, but I cannot imagine one person on this site not being sad after only two days. Please know that it does get a little better with time. Many good thoughts are being sent to you by an entire community of us dog lovers. And, there are many strong shoulders here if you need to talk it out.
Lisa
Zeus was a Husky mix diagnosed with Osteosarcoma at age 11. A visible lung met and suspicious spot on his liver meant a poor prognosis-six weeks was our vet's best guess. We decided to fight for our boy and his right front leg was amputated on 12/1/11. We did six rounds of chemo, changed his diet and spoiled him completely rotten. We were blessed with 10 great months after diagnosis. Against the odds, the lung met remained a single met and grew very little over those months. A wonderful furbaby with the most gentle spirit, he fought with a strength that we never imagined he possessed. We have no regrets...
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7:14 pm
4 June 2011
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So sorry to hear of Abby's passing. Sending our kindest thoughts your way....
8:04 pm
29 October 2010
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Oh, gosh, of course you are still sad and lonely. It takes time - a lot of time - to get through this.
As for looking for another love - that's such a hard thing. We said we'd wait after our Abby died - but we didn't. We saw Rita's picture just 5 days after we lost Abby and we couldn't resist her. We were able to meet her a week later and she came home with us and she has helped heal our hearts. Of course during all that time, I was still terribly grieving for Abby, but I'm glad we could give Rita a loving home, and she's given us so much.
It is for you to decide, and don't let anyone tell you how you should get through this.
Hang in there,
Jackie, Angel Abby's mom
Abby: Aug 1, 2009 – Jan 10, 2012. Our beautiful rescue pup lived LARGE with osteosarcoma for 15 months – half her way-too-short life. I think our "halflistic" approach (mixing traditional meds + supplements) helped her thrive. (PM me for details. I'm happy to help.) She had lung mets for over a year. They took her from us in the end, but they cannot take her spirit! She will live forever in our hearts. She loved the beach and giving kisses and going to In-N-Out for a Flying Dutchman. Tripawds blog, and a more detailed blog here. Please also check out my novel, What the Dog Ate. Now also in paperback! Purchase it at Amazon via Tripawds and help support Tripawds!
10:28 pm
The pain you feel now is the price we pay for loving so much, I would worry about you if you WEREN'T sad after two days. I am more than two years without Maggie, and I still have choke-up moments. I will say now that it is almost all smiles now, you will get there but it takes time.
As far as a new friend- I also think you should take some time. I adopted a 4 year old pug just 5 weeks after Mag passed, but I had her very sad little sister at home. Listen to your heart, you will know when the time is right. Until then let yourself grieve and heal.
Karen and Spirit Maggie
I am so sorry to hear about Abby. Unfortunately, time is the only medicine that helps the pain of loss, and grieving is so personal that there is no formula for how to do it "right." Therefore, I think what you are doing, and will do, is exactly right.
After the loss of a dog I had for 17 years, it took me 4 years to get another dog. Then when that dog died 7 years later, I was at the rescue shelter before the month was out. Both decisions were good.
Mattie
