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I'm sorry I haven't been in here for a while. Are moving from one home to another and my youngest daughter has moved from home at the same time and then Bellis..puppy..young dog.. Bellis has had three urinary infections and peed a lot inside, but now after her first (I don't know how you say it..) "in season" the veterinary say that hopefully everything will be ok. The thing is that when I'm at my other "old" home there are so many memorys that "pop up" from Penny and that is making me sad of course. But I'm working on and try to focus. I love Bellis sooo much and she is giving so much love and joy and Wilbur too of course, but still I have not stopped being sad over Penny. I'm trying to think her soul is around us, but sometimes it doesn't help. Well well.. I guess it just has to take it's time. I hope you all have had a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Gunilla, Wilbur, Bellis and angel Penny
There is no right or wrong time for grieving. Each person takes a different amount of time than someone else. I still have good & bad days and grieve for Sassy every day. I am sorry you are having such a difficult time. Don't hesitate to post pictures and share memories of Penny.
Hugs
Michelle & Angel Sassy
Sassy is a proud member of the Winter Warriors. Live long, & strong Winter Warriors.
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07/26/2006 - Sassy earned her wings 08/20/2013
05/04/2006 - Bosch, Sassy's pal, earned his wings 03/29/19 fought cancer for 4 months.
"You aren't doing it TO her, you are doing it FOR her. Give her a chance at life."
I still miss Willow, too. I get sad, and sometimes still cry, but when that happens I think about something Willow would do that would make me smile or laugh, and I find myself smiling through my tears. I think it will get easier.
Don't feel bad that you're still grieving. Grief is a process, and there is no set time it takes, every person and every situation is different. I'm happy to hear that Bellis and Wilbur are keeping you busy and filled with love. I know that makes Penny happy!
Love and hugs,
Carol
Hi Gunilla. I think it is completely normal for you to feel sad. Penny was a huge part of your life, and you fought her cancer battle with her every step of the way. On January 17 it will be 4 years since I lost Max. There is not one day in those 4 years that passed that I haven't thought about him and wished he was still with me. So it's okay that you're having a hard time right now. But I promise, eventually her memories will bring more smiles than tears. It may take awhile, but it will happen.
Thank you all for warming and healing words and thoughts! I think it has been a too long time now with so much around me and much to do, so I feel I haven't really had the opportunity to just take time and grief and think of Penny. I think we all need that, so I shall be better at taking that time just for myself and sit down and in a calm way think of her. Maybe light a candle and just let it take it's time. I feel I need that for healing. Life just goes so quickly sometimes when a lot is happening. For me now it's of course fun things, but as I said, I just have to do like yoga sometimes. But on the other hand if I/we hadn't gotten a new puppy I think I had grieved maybe too much. It really helps to be busy as well. I just have to find the right "mix" of doing things and just take it easy.
Hugs and love
Gunilla, Wilbur, Bellis and angel Penny
Gunilla it's great to hear from you, happy new year! Sounds like Bellis will be fine, hang in there!
Like others have said, it just takes time to grieve and know that sudden sadness won't creep up and catch you by surprise. I do think you're on track with wanting to carve out some quiet time to honor Penny's life. Being alone in a quiet place for a bit, even just an hour, and really thinking about her life and its effect on you can help your heart and your brain process your grief. Maybe during that time you can write Penny a letter and tell her how much she means to you, and how her memory will always be a part of your life. That can really help too.
Your feelings are so normal. Every animal lover who has to part ways with their dear friend has felt the same way you do. In time, your grief will fade, but her memory will not. Until you get to that point, it's a journey with no definite timeline, but it will help you grow as a human being.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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Thank you Jerry! I think I shall try writing. Think that could help. I also still have some parts left to read in the little book I bought, "Beautiful souls never die".
Gunilla, Wilbur, Bellis and angel Penny
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Gunilla! You and Penny are always in our jearts, whether you are here on the site or not
Hapy Hannah and I lit a candle for your precious Penny too......hope it show up...
You have had a lot on your plate. Now to go through all the emotions of moving too..and then add the bittersweet of holiday memories...it's just sooo darn hard!
Of course Bellis and Wilbur are bringing you jou! Penny's making sure of that!,
Penny's joirney touched us all. She really did live her life to the fullest. And the way you and your husband allowed er to exit this life surrounded by your love and before she had no quality left...what a remarkabl, selfless devotion and dedication you two gave her when she needed it the most! That's a courage that comes straight from your soul.....your soul t hat is.....and will always be...connected tl Penny.
And you know, jist as Jerry said avout writing Penny a letter.......I bet the one she would write to you would be something like this:
"Mom snd Dad! I had THE best time with you!! You showed me what love was! You showed me how to have sooooo mich fun! I loved our snuggle time! Oh how zI loved our time in the garden too.
But listen up now, okay? Yeah, ou're "moving"...and I changed my "location" to when I "moved"....Heck Mom! That didn't separate us at all!! I'm still here with you! It doesn't matter where you go. But, IF you want to, you can dig up a shrub or maybe even some dirt garden and take that with you to our new hone just to make you feel better. Bellis and Wilbur will probably pee on it! They're so goofy!
And one more thing Mom and Dad...you know I took a piece of your hearts with me, right? And you know a piece of my heart is snuggled safely in a corner ofyour heart. Yes! It's true! You know when your heart kind of "flips-flops", or kinda' skips a beat.......tee hee......that's just me getting all comfy and settling down for a nap!:
Yep! I'm here with you AND I'm sure hacing a blast with all the other gripawds! Wht a great groupd of dogs and cats! And here's what's fun! We all had a choice of getting our fourth leg back when we got here.....and many decided not to!! How great is that? I'll let you guess what I did.....I'll leave you clues every now and then in yor dreams......pay attention!"
Love and hugs to you Penney...and YeS! We DO need more pictures o f Penny AND all her pack!!
Sally and Happy Hannah
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Oh Sally, that letter is the sweetest thing ever!
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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Oh Sally! I can't find words to say how wonderful you write and all the encouragement you give us all in this forum! Without having met you I just KNOW you are an amazing person! Thank you sooo much for the letter "from Penny" and all your kind words!
Huuugggsss!! 
Gunilla, Wilbur, Bellis and angel Penny
Just like there is no expiry date on the paws of our furbabies.. there is no expiry date on how long it takes us pawrents to grieve the loss of those furbabies. I am sometimes my own worst enemy I think... lol But.. these guys and gals have been through so much with their amputations, cancer fighting, and finally running for the Bridge that we can't help but have a strong, strong bond with them. They teach us many things in their short period of time being with us, give us such unconditional love that we feel in our hearts even after they are not "physically" here anymore to love us with sloppy kisses!
Everyone grieves differently, and everyone has their own time schedule. There is no "year-end calendar" to follow.
I found it easier to keep up with Franklin's blog here.. even though he is not with us phyusically, he will always be with is in our hearts and smiles. And, yes.. I do find it hard to be here sometimes too.. there are days that I feel cheated cause my boy didn't get to celebrate his first year ampuversary, yet.. I smile and share the joys and successes that those that do!!! And when a pawrent here loses their loved tripawd.. I cry .. and yes.. there are still tears that well up in my eyes even now when I am typing cause my feelings pour out of my eyes sometimes.. lol
Yes.. it does get better with time... but it never, ever truly heals up and goes away. If that ever happened.. that would mean that I am finally at the Bridge, surrounded by fur and sloppy kisses and my heart is whole again....
Christine..... with Franklin in her heart♥
Franklin, he was the Happiest Dog on Three Legs! Diagnosed 09/26/2012 with Osteosarcoma, amputated 12/4/2012. Had a wonderful 5 1/2 months painfree until he ran for the Bridge on 5/15/2013. Always in my heart, and always a guardian angel of my pack... You can follow his Tripawd Adventures, before and after, in my blog, Frank'n'Farter!
Thank you Christine! I think I maybe have been a little misunderstood here, because I never meant there is an exact time to grieve, I just meant it has been hard during the last weeks to find time to grieve with everything that's happening around me now and that it's just so hard that it still hurts so much. But I understand it's just like it is. But I think we understand each other. Thanks for warming and encouraging words!
Gunilla, Wilbur, Bellis and angel Penny
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