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Just wondering if anyone can recommend someone who does beautiful memorial boxes? I love the ones made by 'by and by memorials' but have contacted them with no response, so not sure if they are still going.
Our Harry's lung mets have spread and I want to be somewhat ready. I know it sounds morbid but they have given us only a short time frame and being as we have a toddler and a 6 month old baby (as well as 2 other dogs) to care for I need to be prepared and not fall apart.
Thanks all,
Michelle.
Hi Michelle
I have no information about the memorial boxes but I did want to respond and say that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Enjoy the time you have left with your gorgeous boy.
Linda and Tucker
Hi Michelle,
I don't think you're being morbid at all. By preparing for the inevitable, you are being strong for Harry when he needs you most. A memorial box is a beautiful tribute.
If you search for "pet memorial box" on Amazon (hopefully through the search box in our Tripawds Amazon blog 
you'll find a number of boxes to choose from.
This is such a tough thing to go through, you and Harry and your family are in our hearts, we are here for you whenever you want to talk.
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
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Michelle, rough times and I'm sorry.
Yet, your Harry is STILL by your side and, maybe other than feeling uncomfortable from time to time, or maybe wanting to rest more, he's hanging in there! As you are already doing, just take it day by day.. Remember, HARRY will decide when it's time...not a statistic... and he will let you know! Stay in the moment with him and just continuing all the loving and spoiling you've already been lavishing on him!
I think it's lovely that you are making time now, while he's still here, to decide how you want to safeguard his outstanding life. I think Harry is real proud of you for that!
Surrounding you both with serenity and love!
Sally and Happy Hannah
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Thank you for your responses. Jerry I did have a good look through and I just can't find what I had in mind, so hubby is going to make it 
to be honest I'm not doing too great. I'm finding the ups and downs of this whole process quite hard to deal with and feel like an emotional wreck. I keep waking in the night and worrying about what will happen when Harry's huge bed is no longer in our office. And I am bursting into tears all the time, which is not nice for the kids. I just cannot imagine my life without him here. I want him to be at peace but I'm just not ready to be without him. And I know he's not ready to go, but how will I cope when he is??
Michelle,
Oh my gosh who can blame you for feeling the way you do? I think all of us have felt it, what's known as "anticipatory grief," which means mourning before your loved one is actually gone from this earth. One thing that really helped us was the book The Legacy of Beezer and Boomer. Check out our review, I think you'll find it's what you need to be present and in the moment while Harry is still here. Remember, there will be plenty of time for tears later.
As for the box, oftentimes something made from the heart is exactly what you are looking for all along. We'd love to see the box when it's finished.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
Tripawds Founders Jim and Rene
tripawds.com | tripawds.org | bemoredog.net | triday.pet
Michelle,
It's a tough time to be sure. When my dog got lung mets I was trying not to hover over her but I wasn't sure when THE
day was coming. People always say you will know but you really don't. You just try and decide if your dog is happy and living a somewhat good life. Then you start thinking of them gone before they are. It's human nature, can't be helped. But we all make it through this really hard time and you will too. Love to you and Harry.
Penny, Blink and Spirit Maggie
When you jave "those" moments of despair and your mindis running a muck, come here...come tous...vent, scream, cry, yell! We are here for you! You have to get it out.
THEN...go hug Harry and match his centered energy, his calmness, his contentment, his waggng tail...no...you dn't have to wag yor tail...but you can smile at him and make him wag his tail more!!
I know I refer to this a lot, bt it's worth repeatng what another member said, "When you start missng what isn't yet gone, then you lose what is left."
This is an incredibly hard tme and my heart aches for you. HOWEVER...you STILL have Harry by your side not ready to go anywhere yet. That's where your focus MUST be. Do NOT let ANYTHING rob you of your time together. You will look back knowing you stayed fully present with Harry and surrounded him with a positive lovng energy of gratitude for your eternal bnd.
Do whatever you need to do to change yor focus back to the NOW when your mind starts jumping ahead!! Stand up and tell your mind ou will grieve later, right now you are living with Harry and Harry is still enjoying beng loved and spoiled.
Before gong to bed, breathe deeply and visualize yo and Harry sitting in one of his favorite spots while you rub his tummy. Let that cntentment you both were feeling wash over you. Should you wake during the middle of the night fearful, immediately take yojrself to that place.....let that feeling of love and contentment push the fear away. Keep changng your focus...visualize the here and now and know that's all that matters.
We are here. We care deeply.
Surrounding you with serenity and big ole'' sloppy kisses Harry style!
You must do this for Harty and you will because your love is THAT great, your bond is that strong and YOU are an ncredibly strong lovng soul who WILL get through this. You and Harry are a team!! We are YOUR team!! We are here for you!
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
Geeeeez, I was trying so hard to make as few errors as possible so trying to read through all the typos while you're already stressed......anyway.....somehow did something that changed the order of the sentences all around........hope it still makes some sense!
With love,
Sall and Happy Hannan
Happy Hannah had a glorious additional bonus time of over one yr & two months after amp for osteo! She made me laugh everyday! Joined April's Angels after send off meal of steak, ice cream, M&Ms & deer poop!
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