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So we hit the two weeks post surgery mark yesterday. We still haven't seen even an ounce of improvement. We got Dexter's staples out the day before yesterday and talked with the vet. We had it in our head that we were going to give it 2 more weeks and if we didn't see any improvement we were going to have to start considering the "e" word. I can't even bring myself to say it. I have been having some pain in my low back which on Tuesday got really bad. I ended up going to the emergency room twice on Tuesday the first time they gave me a pain/inflammation shot and sent me on my way with some vicodin and flexeril to take home. I didn't get any relief from the shot so I took the medicine they sent me home with and still got no relief. So I went back to the ER. They gave me steriod shot and a shot of Dilata(sp?) its a really strong pain medicine. I ended up throwing up all night and still didn't get any pain relief. So today I went to the Chiropractor and he took X-rays only to find out that my Sacral (the bottom section of your back bone) was out of place along with the disc between my L4 and L5 vertebrae is slipped I think was the term he used. Basically the cushion between the two bones is coming out of place and the bones are rubbing together. They did an adjustment and got the sacral back in place which gave some immediate relief but I am still in immense pain. I have to go back today and I can't do anything for Dexter anymore. I can barely roll over in bed without alot of pain. My fiancee has pulled a muscle in his hip and he is having to care for me and Dexter. I fear that Dexter's time has come. I had to miss work Tuesday and my fiancee had to miss work Wednesday to care for Dexter because I couldn't. I very much wanted to give it two more weeks so that we were 100% sure that there was no chance for recovery, but with my own health at risk as well as my fiancee's I believe tomorrow we are going to talk with the vet about putting Dexter down. If he could use his back legs at all we could try raise funds for a wheelchair but I haven't seen anything online of a dog with only 1 leg able to manuever a wheelchair . On top of everything alot of my pain I am experiencing is coming from pinched nerves. They said Dexter's spinal cord was pinched which is what was causing the information not to fire right, so even though he isn't acting like he is pain I can almost guarentee that he is on a daily basis. I get shooting pains down my leg from nerves in my hip area being pinched. He is miserable I can tell. He wants to get up so bad but his back legs do nothing. He has barely wagged his tail since this last surgery. Honestly I regret the surgery. I wish we had just enjoyed Dexter as he was for a 2-3 more months and then put him down. At least he could stand up and poop and pee on his own. At this point I feel like keeping him alive is more for me than him. I mean what kind of life is it for a puppy that can't do anything. We have to help him pee/poop/eat/drink. We have to hold him up and flip him from side to side. I mean he literally can't do anything other than use his front arm to pull him self in a circle, which all that does is rub his arm into the ground and he bangs his head against the floor as he is trying to pull himself. I wanted so bad to have this amazing success story for Dexter. I am very sad to say I don't see it anymore. I just don't think we can handle the care for another two weeks. I am so at a loss, I don't want to do this but I see no other way.
Krista, people here don't often give outright advice when it comes to euthanasia. I'm going to because I think much of what you really need right now is reassurance: It's ok for you to decide that Dexter's had enough. It's ok for you to look after your own medical needs now. It's ok to know when you've tried enough and anything more will just prolong discomfort or pain or sadness. If Dexter were my pup, I would be doing exactly what you're doing. I would be helping him find his wings.
God knows you've done what you could. You tried, harder than 99% of people would have tried. You've been amazing and perfect for Dexter. You've not let him down in any way. If you think he's in pain and that his quality of life is poor, then you would let him down by making him stay. Dexter's in your heart, Krista. It sounds like your heart is telling you what to do.
Whenever you decide to write next, you know we'll be here. No guilt, no regret. If Dexter could speak, he would thank you for all you've done and for knowing when enough is enough. You've done so much for him but now it's time for you to do for you as well. You've got to get well. Take care of yourself and please write back soon.
Shari
From abandoned puppy to Tripawd Warrior Dude, Dakota became one of the 2011 February Furballs due to STS. Our incredibly sweet friend lived with grace and dignity till he impulsively raced over the Bridge on 12-15-12.
Dakota's thoughtful and erudite blog is at http://shari.tr.....pawds.com/
First off - let me say how sorry I am that you are having excruciating back pains. As one that has dealt with a herniated discs in the neck for 2+ years - I understand how initially painful it can be. But don't monkey around with a chiropractor - get yourself to a doctor and get an MRI to see if you have bulge (hopefully) or a herniation. You need anti-inflammatories to get rid of the pain (it's the inflammation causing the pain - so get it under control. Pain pills just mask the pain). You can get a steroid shot around the inflamed area or you can get an epidural. Before then, put ice on the disc area where you think it is coming from and that will give you some relief. (no more than 10 minutes and repeat every 2-3 hours)
With that being said...I concur with Shar. It's time. As heartbreaking as it is to say goodbye, there is nothing more anyone can do for Dexter. Having only 1 functioning leg is no quality of life for a dog. I know it's hard and I know there is a lot of guilt but letting go will be the best for him. He probably is in pain and even if he isn't, he has no life and he isn't going to get much better.
You can let him go knowing in your heart you tried as hard as you could to help him.
I'm so very sorry. Truly, it's very sad.
Hugs to you as you endure this next step.
Comet - 1999 to 2011
She departed us unexpectedly January 23, 2011 at the age of 12 1/2.
She was born with a deformed front leg and a tripawd all of her life.
So sorry that this time has come but it sounds like Dexter does need to be set free of his failing body. This must be incrediable hard for you but know that you have done EVERYTHING you could have done for the adorable wee guy. My thoughts are with you as you go through this hell. Your heart is telling you what to do, listen. You have been so strong for Dexter and now is the time when strength is needed most, so stay strong! There not much else I can say and nothing I say will make this better. We are all here for you if you need us.
Hugs and support
Sarah

Hi Krista, I am sorry too that you are having those back issues. I know just how you feel. I have had back issues for years. It comes and goes but when it is hurting it is just awful and you just can't do your regular life. Hoping so much that you can find some relief soon. The chiropractor always helped me. And ice helped alot too.
I think that you are doing the right thing for Dexter. I am very saddened that he is not recovering like you wished he could. But you did do everything that you could do and his quality of life is very poor at this point it seems. Poor Dexter. I will be praying for you both. We will all support your decision.
I'm so sorry to hear that it's come time to help Dexter get fitted for his wings. We were all so pulling for the little guy to make it. You did everything you could. He doesn't know that he isn't getting to live a full life. He just knows that you love him and he looks to you to do what's best for him. Sadly, it sounds like what is best for him know is one of the hardest decisions a pet owner has to make. Sending you good thoughts for peace in knowing what you're doing is the right thing.
[I've also had debilitating back pain, as has my husband. We have had great experiences w/ chiro. Hope you feel better soon.]
Hang in there. We're here for you.
Jackie, Angel Abby's mom
Abby: Aug 1, 2009 – Jan 10, 2012. Our beautiful rescue pup lived LARGE with osteosarcoma for 15 months – half her way-too-short life. I think our "halflistic" approach (mixing traditional meds + supplements) helped her thrive. (PM me for details. I'm happy to help.) She had lung mets for over a year. They took her from us in the end, but they cannot take her spirit! She will live forever in our hearts. She loved the beach and giving kisses and going to In-N-Out for a Flying Dutchman. Tripawds blog, and a more detailed blog here. Please also check out my novel, What the Dog Ate. Now also in paperback! Purchase it at Amazon via Tripawds and help support Tripawds!
Sometimes ....unfortunately the most loving thing to do is also the hardest on one's heart......
There is absolutely no shame in fighting the good fight and then allowing peace...peace from pain
Please know you will not cry alone for sweet lil Dexter!
Sending you strength...
Krista, our hearts brake for you knowing that this is such a tough situation to be in, for all of you. I'm so, so sorry that it has come to this but sometimes the kindest thing to do is to release our beloved friends from the pain that is consuming them, even when they are so young. Since animals cannot make that decision for themselves, humans have to to do it in order to avoid suffering and allow them to transition on peacefully to their next journey.
You have done so much more than most people we know, and that is a true testament to the kind of loving, caring person you are. Do not see this as defeat or giving up, see it as giving one beautiful puppy a loving home for as long as he was able to enjoy it. He will pay you back in so many ways as his soul continues to grace your life for eternity. Dexter will never be far from your heart, or ours.
I'm so very sorry. Please know we all stand by you in your decision. And we hope you feel better very soon. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
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