Thank you all for your honesty and understanding how daunting this feels right now.  Reading these responses made me cry a little - it is so amazing to have this kind of community to help Nilla and me through this really difficult time.  

The good news is that I went to the supermarket and loaded up on tasty food to entice Nilla to eat.  She actually did not need too much enticing, which was great to see.  Slices of salami really got her interest, and I was able to wrap some smoke turkey cubes in the salami.  She ate about 3 thin slices of salami and about 2 dozen 1/4 inch turkey cubes.  I'm happy with that!  She peed outside, and even stared out the sliding doors to the back yard, so I carried her out there where she hopped around for a few minutes before panting in the heat and humidity (we're in New York - 91 degrees today with really high humidity).  It seemed to me that she was weaker today in getting up on her own than she was yesterday and I had to put more support on the sling than I did yesterday.  

Her med list is huge.  I had to create a spread sheet to keep track of the times of day she gets what.  She is currently on Vitamin A, Misoprostol, Sucralfate, Mirtazapine, Benadryl, Pepcid, and Tramadol.  We still have a few Trazadone pills left from the hospital (doggy Xanax) but I don't see the need to use them.  The surgeon also wants me to use an ice compress for the first few days and then switch to a warm compress, all to prevent swelling.  I have seen her drinking, although she is definitely struggling to find the right position to drink.  She can take three to four licks of water at a time before having to change position, but she continues to go back to it.  

Her tail continues to hang down and she didn't show any spark when my husband or I came home.  She did, however, react to being scratched behind her ears.  Nilla is a very sensory dog and loves to be pet, rubbed, cuddled, and scratched.  Often when someone is scratching behind her ears, she will lose muscle control in her neck and relax her entire head into that person's hands.  She didn't do that at all to me during her time in the hospital, but this afternoon when I was scratching her ears, she seemed to melt ever so slightly into my hands.  I'll take the little things as they come!  

We have a guy who works at our vet's "doggy daycare" coming by this evening to meet Nilla and for us to talk about having him come over mid-day to take her out and give her mid-day meds (hubby and I both work full time).  He's been referred to as a "dog whisperer" by others who have used him for boarding and walking, so hopefully that will work out.  I'll feel better knowing she can go out for mid-day pee, can get a little exercise, and can spend some time out of the x-pen.  

Thank you for helping me to see the little successes and progress she is making and not to focus on her losses or worry about the future.  Changing my thought patterns will ultimately be best for Nilla, and for me.  

I can't believe I'm excited to post this, but this morning Nilla hopped on her own from our kitchen (where she has been sleeping) into the living room and pooped on one of the area rugs we put down!!  We were so excited that she hopped around unassisted on her own and that she squeezed out a nice big poop that we didn't even care that she pooped in the house!!

This afternoon she hopped around quite a bit in our backyard, first assisted and then unassisted.  I can't figure out how to add a video to this post, but I posted it on my FB page with #tripawds so I think it is viewable on the Tripawds FB page.  

I spoke with the hospital this morning about two odd behaviors - not sure if they are med related or pain/anxiety related.  She has been making a jaw smacking sound quite frequently.  It almost sounds like her jaw is slamming shut, but her mouth is not open.  They said this could a side effect of the Tramadol and suggested that we cut back to twice per day instead of three times per day.  The other behavior occurred last night as we were going to sleep.  I put her in an x-pen in our kitchen, and she engaged in a repetitive behavior where she would lick twice from the water bowl, look to the right, look to the left, and then look straight, and then repeated this cycle over and over again.  I watched for about 5 minutes before breaking the cycle by tugging at her harness and moving her to the middle of the x-pen.  She never barks, whines, cries, or makes any sound, so I don't know if this behavior was anxiety over being in the x-pen or was related to meds.  Since Nilla is not usually crated or penned in, they suggested that perhaps I move the x-pen to my bedroom at night.  I'll try that tonight, and I'm not even sure I would need an x-pen.  

Nilla ate a few more slices of salami, a scrambled egg, and some shredded brisket.  She'll beat the cancer but wind up other problems from the high fatty proteins!!  Just kidding.  I cooked some hamburger this afternoon so as soon as it is cool enough I will see if that interests her.  

I'm continuing to enjoy the small successes.  I sent everyone I know the video of Nilla hopping around the yard.  I think I'm prouder of her than when my children took their first steps!!